I think your DH maybe scared and that was his way of dealing with it. Men go through a lot of trauma even in a normal birth... My DH explained that it's 2 of the worst things he has been through... The end is awesome but getting there is terrible in his opinion.
I would not opt for an induction but what I would opt for is sitting down and having a frank and open discussion with your DH xo
I too wouldn't choose an induction under the circumstances (unless something else cropped up) but would suggest sitting down with DH and discussing contingency plans and ways of dealing with the situation should it be necessary. I think he brought up the question because he is worried about how he will cope if it happens - which is entirely understandable. He may well feel a lot more secure once those concerns are addressed and he knows what he can do to help if it's needed - men often like to plan these things well in advance, kind of that whole protector/fixer of problems thing.
FWIW, my DH is being a worry-wart at the moment too.
TBH I'm not quite sure why your DH is in the poo. I obviously don't know him, but I guessed he raised it at your appt because you had discussed concerns with him. My DH will voice things that I have said to him and I see that as being him looking after me, not speaking out of turn. After all, I'm his wife, this is his child and he is concerned about both our welfare. JMO though - like I said, I don't know your DH or you.
As for being induced, no not something I would consider. I had a quicker labour than you did with my DD2 and it is a genuine concern for me too - I am about an hour from my hospital and OB and TBH I don't know how I am going to deal with it closer to my due date either.
I guess the only thing you can do is try to make sure you have backups around you so that the second you feel labour come on you can get someone driving you to the hospital.
Hmmm LuluHB - with all due respect, just because you are someone's wife does not mean they can speak on your behalf. Unless of course you are in a coma or not of a sound mind.
ETA - the below is general not directed at any one person
I have had plenty of opportunity to discuss the matter with my shared care providers and I am not backwards in coming forwards IF I felt it was necessary to bring it up with them I would have.
HE should have spoken to me before letting his male ego take over. It may very well be HIS child but the fact of the matter is regardless of HIS wishes, this is my body and I will not be pushed into ANY decision by him nor anyone else... ESPECIALLY when there is absolutely NO reason medically to go down this road.
Anyways,
DH is in the poo A) speaking on my behalf about something he should have discussed with me first before bring it up with MY (not ours) health care provider. B) He has more or less started the Ob's intervention train rolling ... yes I can say no and I can and will fight for the birth I want however I shouldn't have to, he should have kept his blinking mouth shut. C) no he was not voicing HIS concern - he is not concerned about how or where or when I have this baby, he was literally speaking on MY behalf (he has admitted this to me). I cannot see why people are questioning my being angry at him but then perhaps others are happy for someone else to be their voice
This has been amplified of course by the Obs "interest" in doing an induction which I will now have to nip in the bud, and have some good well worded arguements to back myself up (just the way this Ob is he has been in the business for a Loooooong time) - sheesh you should have heard what he was banging on about when I said I didn't want an Epi because of my C-section
It shouldn't have happened. Simple. Thats why I am cross at him.
No. You know that
Anyhoo - I don't think it's too late to call one of the 'local' IM's to discuss your situation, and the possibility not only of paying off their services after the birth, but for a lowered fee, given your circumstances. I know of one who lives near one of my favourite markets ( ) who would be up for a conversation about it. She can be an advocate, and/or, if needed, can help you birth at home if it came to that, for any reason.
If you have to do it at home, you'll be ok. I think it's also reasonable to expect that you'll make it to the hospital Part of your apprehension is an anxiety that, whilst it has a basis in PAST events, has very little bearing on the present situation. The Ob is assuming you want intervention, because he's probably used to women who think the promise of interventions is reassuring and will eliminate the reasons for their anxiety. I know you don't, but it doesn't mean you don't have that anxiety - just you don't have the delusion that interventions will fix it. Make sense?
Anyway, I think you'll rock it, I REALLY do, and I wish I could put my confidence into a powder and mix it with my chai, I would
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I cannot see why people are questioning my being angry at him but then perhaps others are happy for someone else to be their voice 
Loke you said, sure you can fight for your birth, but you totally shouldn't have to.
Part of your apprehension is an anxiety that, whilst it has a basis in PAST events, has very little bearing on the present situation. The Ob is assuming you want intervention, because he's probably used to women who think the promise of interventions is reassuring and will eliminate the reasons for their anxiety. I know you don't, but it doesn't mean you don't have that anxiety - just you don't have the delusion that interventions will fix it. Make sense?
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