Shellbelle, yes, I can see what you mean, when it comes to online communities like this, it could seem like everybody is against the OB system and people who choose it.
For what it's worth, most people here aren't judgemental, but I'm sure ou know that seeing that you're a member here.

But to be honest, out in the real world, I find the opposite to be true. If you don't choose a private hospital and an OB, then everybody just looks at you funny and assumes that you care more about your own birth experience than the health of your baby. I have actually had people call me selfish for wanting a natural birth. I didn't choose it for my own sake, though, but because I did my research and it showed that a natural birth was safer for both, mother and baby. You probably agree with that, seeing that you yourself had drug free vaginal births. But from what I had heard from the people around me, I was going to get more support for my choices from a MW led unit then from the OB led private system. So this is why I made the choices I made.

Sasa