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Would you lie about your EDD to your mw/gp/ob?
Just wondering, after reading LimeSlice's post about EDDs, how many people would lie about their EDD?
By that I mean, if you knew when your LMP was, and knew what your 40 week EDD would be... would you lie and tell them you were due a week later? To save the hassle of inductions etc when you hit smack on 40 weeks?
What would be the risks of saying you are due later? Do you think you'd get the "oh you're big for x weeks" and push for inductions anyway?
Just wondering...
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No I never would, I think its foolish to possibly endanger your baby but that is just me, I like my obs and I felt completely comfortable with him. I guess if i didn't feel confident about my care providers I might.
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No way, just in case it endangered my bub some how. I would just try to be strong and refuse any kind of induction from the begining. I would just be honest with them. I think that's betterthan lying to get what you want!
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no way as placentas dont keep functioning forever. If you lie and fo to full term on false edd and they let you go 2 weeks over you are really 3 weeks over and endangering babies life. If you went into labour before edd management of prem labour and drugs they give to stop labour or help babies lungs you would be having unnessary.
Silly and irreponsible for people to do that, if you are not 110% comfortable that care provider will do best thing for you then you need to seek alternative care.
Last edited by feeb; June 13th, 2009 at 09:25 AM.
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Feeb, I think the point of the article Limeslice posted was that the idea of the pregnancy being complete, and therefore the placenta beginning to deteriorate is a myth. That a normal pregnancy does actually last 41 + weeks.
Having said that, I agree with Flowerchild. If you can't trust your care provider to practice in accordance with modern evidence, even at your request, then you are better off finding a new case provider than lying. If that is not possible, them arm yourself with the knowledge and the evidence and stand your ground. But I think it's important to be honest with your provider.
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No way. But I do feel very comfortable with my care provider, and trust him. What if the baby comes early, and has problems? Do you then fess up that you've lied all along? And what if you're someone who chooses to have scans, and they all show a different date to what you're saying? I know scans are not always correct, but I used to have long cycles, and I knew when I conceived. My Ob was happy to use my EDD, rather than working it from my LMP. And all four ultrasounds I had were within one day of the EDD I predicted.
So no, absolutely not. I think it would be more important to find a care provider you trust, than to start lying to one you don't.
I think if you have to lie - you need a new care provider. It is our responsibility to seek out a care provider who has values similar to our own. If it's important to you not to be hassled about due dates - you need to find a health care provider that has a similar approach.
It is NEVER okay to lie about your health to someone you are entrusting your health to. It is setting up a really negative energy around the birth.
There are care providers and models of care for everyone out there - and as a health care consumer it is our responsibility to find the right one.
I think that would be totally irrisponsable and selfish! How could you possible endanger the life of your unborn child!
Wouldnt people become unstuck anyway due to u/s datings???
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Could not agree more.
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I think if you're thinking of lying about your EDD, maybe you need to find a care provider you trust ...
Maz - in answer to your placenta question... It is difficult to predict the state of a placenta by u/s alone. The best predictor of placental health is growth. Dopplers can be done to show blood flow - another good predictor. PAPP-A being low is also a possible predictor of poor placental health. Movements that a strong, forceful and regular are one of the best and non tech methods too!
Whilst my situation is different - just for some awareness.... As you know I was hospitalised at 26+4 weeks with an autoimmune response. I was transpported to a tertiary hospital. I was u/s frequently. Imogen's movements during her last 3 days inutero were undetectable to the point that I really thought she was dead. I had convinced myself she was gone. No movements in more than 24 hours.
Anyway - dopplers had been fine and the placenta looked fine. When she was born she was significantly smaller than u/s predicted and the placenta literally fell into threads. The surgeon showed me - knowing I was a nurse... No u/s had detected the dreadful state of my placenta. Immy was on borrowed time.
Placentas can show up some calcification and still be fine - placnta s are a large organ and adept at sustaining life. U/s though is a poor predictor of placental health (though of course helpful) - from the words of the top dog in Fetal Med at RBWH
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I wouldn't lie about my EDD. I have considered lying about my LMP though, but didn't in the end. I have had to chart to fall pg everytime because my cycles are so irregular and as this is my third baby, I know the drill and the stunned looks I get from medical professionals that my LMP could be that far out from my dating scan. In some ways, I think it would be easier to lie about my LMP and avoid the fuss, lecture and concern on behalf of the medical profession that should know that LMPs are not ALWAYS 28 days precisely, especially when the woman is breastfeeding. Argh! Anyway, vent over . . .
As for lying about EDD, if your baby is small for dates and you lie and say that your EDD is a week later, it will take them a lot longer to pick up that baby is not growing the way s/he should - not worth the risk in my opinion. Probably better to plough through having to explain yourself and your situation over and over again with the truth than having to fight your way out of a lie when the time comes.
Interesting thread though
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I haven't lied to my doctor or the hospital about my dates but I have insisted that they use my own EDD instead of my LMP date. I have long cycles and I don't O until day 21, which makes my EDD and the date going by my LMP a week apart.
My doctor insisted on using my LMP date but my first dating scan showed an edd of 16 July (which is my date). However my 12wk scan gave me a edd of 10 July (my lmp date) and then the 20wk scan suggested that my edd was 16 July.
I took all these states to my midwife and she agreed that my EDD would be closer to the 16th of July. She has been monitoring my fundal height and I always seem to be right for dates going by my edd.
I really want to avoid induction so I felt it necessary to insist on using the later EDD
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Personally I would not lie about my EDD.
At my first appointment the MW put be a few days further back, (based on one cycle that went a couple fo days longer than normal. But when I had the dating scan, it went back to the date based on my LMP.
Having had a prem first time round and having a 50% chance it will happen again there would be no way I would consider lying about dates. Due to fast pregressing labour (7-8cm by the time I got to hosy), it was too late for steroids for bubs to develop her lungs prior to delivery. If it happens again and we can get there quick enough to stop labour progressing I would be much happier for bubs to have received the steroids than not IYKWIM.
It may also change the course of care for bubs when delivered.
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I wouldn't lie but having said that, I deliverred a baby at "37 weeks" who was most definitely a little bit prem and i delivered my daughter at "43 weeks" who was most certainly not post dates so i would keep in mind that for me personally a 40 week pregnancy doesn't seem to work.
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