Is your partner as well informed as you?

[slyder]

I've deliberately avoided quoting various comments and naming names, because as a former mod I know how quickly these things become hysterical and I wouldn't wish that on the current team.

It's not a big deal. The thread has now gone away from what Berenice was originally on about so I won't say anything further on that particular issue. Bygones.

[Fleur]

Hrmmm...

running late so have only skimmed the last few posts....

But I can see how my posts may have been considered patronsising or offensive Slyder? and if that is the case, I sincerely apologise. It certainly wasn't intended to be but I may have over-generalised a bit...my bad

[slyder]

Really, it's not a big deal. Whatever you do don't apologise! I'd rather you tell me to get stuffed - it's like when a woman cries, it's just not playing by the rules.

TBH without going back through the thread again I can't recall who said whatever I was highlighting. It's really not that important - mine is just one opinion.

Back to Berenice's thread!!

[Fleur]

Ok, have re-read the whole thread now.
Just to clarify - I in no way think my DH is a stupid doormat just not as engaged as some people, (be they male or female).
Not that he's not interested - he will happily discuss the ins & outs of labour & childbirth with anyone - but he was not as interested in the reading & learning that I was leading up to the birth. ITMS?

But somne men are not engaged in the process - they rock in otherways -

- like that
ETA - It was a great support emotionally to have him there during my labours & I would not have NOT had him there IYKWIM. But to answer the OP in short, no, I don't feel that he was as informed as me.

And as for who has the final say - it's one of those things where there is little room for compromise, at least when you get right down to it, for example will she have pain relief or not.
An understanding and respect for where your partner is coming from is important.. that goes without saying....I hate the thought of going into the delivery room at odds over birth preferences.
For me, I think it would come down to what the issue was though.
Yes, it's a woman's body but it is their baby.

Just wondering - it's a hypothetical & obviously you would hope it never happens. But if a woman & her partner are in disagreement during the labour & delivery room, who do the caregivers give the final say to?

[slyder]

The woman.

[Inanna]

The Woman! Woman's body, woman's decision... I believe there was a case in the US (of course!) where a woman wanted to birth her breech baby vaginally & was refusing c/section. Her ex partner tried to get an interim order to insist on the baby being born "in the safest way" which was deemed by the medical staff as being vaginally... I believe that in the end she birthed vaginally as until the baby was born she had the right to decide over her body...

Not sure though how this would stand legally here... For, I have known cases where authoritites became involved when suspicious of a woman's intent to birth VBAC at home...