Birth of Baby James ***WARNING WAY TMI***

[kristi14]

You did so well for what you went through.

Well done

[Footsteps]

well done huni you did a amazing job considering what you went through....welcome to bb.
rach xox

[boobaloo]

wow - what a crappy experience for you, i'm so glad you and your bubba had your bond though, and that things are going well xoox

[Smoke Jaguar]

I am so livid at the way you were treated. Doesn't matter if you had been 14yo, these people need to be shot. What makes one birthing woman less deserving of respect and care than another? Absolutely nothing.
I was glad to read you tell the middie to bugger off about the breastfeeding. You are spot on, they had absolutely NO right to just jab you with things you had asked not to be jabbed with.
Do you think you could use all of what you have written to write a letter of complaint to the hospital? I would strongly suggest it - it might even help another young mama down the track if they can start thinking about changing their approach or one day formalising some training about young mothers (for the benefit of staff who are going to hold grudges or let their ignorant ideas affect their performance and care of women).
Thanks for your story, it's nice to be reminded of the sheer strength and resilience us women have in adversity!

[mamasmurf]

After reading your posting I was in tears(good therapy believe me) I can`t quite work out whether they were angry,upset or both tears though. I`m so sorry you had this experience. It has taken a long time, almost a year due to the trauma, to piece together what happened to me. I went through a period of keeping my mouth shut about what I really thought about my experiences in hospital during the birth of my dd.What absolutely insenses me is that this continues to happen(supposedly to the minority of birthing mothers). Why do you have to keep fighting for help when it`s their job to help you and they are supposed to be qualified and skilled somehow but still seem to make such a hash of it. I can absolutely identify with the experience of staff being rude, judgemental and downright unprofessional. A midwife actually stormed into my room and shouted at me all for agreeing to see a lactation consultant all during the aftermath of a horrific birth feeling weak, in shock,pain,anaemic, infected......etc.
I suppose you cant teach how to care with compassion and have pride in your work in uni and midi/obs is only a job after all. I apologise for my bitter rant.
On the positive side we are managing to get this all out and to go through all of these experiences and come out of the other side and still raise our kids makes us extremely strong people in spite of the poor care we have recieved.Well done you!

[human bean]

I'm so sorry for what you had to go through, but your strength is inspiring! Congratulations

[damprye]

Thank you all for your support and i am sorry to hear that others have had to go theough similar experiences but we all push through if for no other reasons than for our childrens sake

[ElleJay]

I am so livid at the way you were treated. Doesn't matter if you had been 14yo, these people need to be shot. What makes one birthing woman less deserving of respect and care than another? Absolutely nothing.

I, too, agree with Maya here - I was appalled at how you were treated - so what that you were 19 at the time?! My DH is a school teacher and had a 14yo pregnant and you know, nowerdays it doesn't surprise me. I hate the people that judge others on age... and the whole 'Single, young and only in it for the baby bonus'
Its disgusting that a medical professional would think that.. I'm so sorry you had to go through that - and I applaud you and send massive kudos to you for a brilliantly written birth story

[damprye]

Forgot to put in there that from about the beginning of October till after his birth I had bruises all over the top half of my stomach and into my ribcage from him being far to big for me which has also given him "bandy legs" as I call them....his shins are curved inwards so it has taken him longer to walk and a bit of a weird appearance although he shouldn't need surgery to fix them.

[2CheekyMonkeys]

good on you for getting through all that! it is disgusting the way they treated you! a friend of mine had her baby at 21 (not even that young really) but they treated her as if she hadnt planned on the pregnancy and knew nothing about labour and birth. she said they really dumbed everything down for her and were really patronising with the way they talked to her. that makes me really mad!! whats worse in your case is that the medical treatment you got was ridiculously ****ty! but next time you will be stronger and wiser and get the birth you want! :-)