Mon 3rd May - Had an achy back all day and started getting strong BH that were making my tummy so tight I'd have to stop in my tracks until they passed. 7pm - Felt a 'pop' and a warm gush whilst I was reading to DD#1 on the lounge... Completely grossed me out so jumped into the shower to clean up. Called the hossy when I got out, was told there were no beds available, but I had to come straight as I was GSB+ and they'd 'organise something'! Not a nice start to things! lol 8pm - Got to the hossy right on lock down, so had to wait almost half an hour in emergancy waiting for security to escort us up to maternity. Got to the birth suits where I was told there was still no room for me so I was taken into the maturnity ward to start my med and had the monitor strapped on. I was having very strong cnx (which I wasn't even noticing as I was more worried about having the IV put in!!) so they decided I had to go straight back to the delivery suits. A poor girl was moved out and put into maturnity to labour as I would have my baby before her. 9pm -1am - Mum, Dh and I were really bored!!! My cnx were still irregular and bareable. I kept walking around as they got a lot stronger and closer together when I did, as soon as I sat down everything calmed down. DH went looking for the MW as I wanted to see how far along I was (as by this stage I still hadn't been checked.), Mw had huge bag of chips, scoffing them down and had a huff and puff when DH asked her to come see me. Was checked at 1am and told I was only 2cm dilated I was asked if I wanted some peth so I could have a nap as I 'wasn't yet in active labour' and bub would be a long way off. I burst into tears as I didn't want any pain meds this time round. I declined the peth. About 4am - I was in terrible pain and now considering having the peth so I could get some shut eye to be refreshed ready for when the time came to push. DH had to go searching for the MW who was sitting down feeding her face yet again! MW checked me again, ummed and ahhhed then decided I was only about 3cm and still wasn't in 'active labour'. I felt completely defeated, I was devistated and cried once again (MW eyes just rolled at me!). I asked if the peth would give me enough relief to be able to get some sleep? MW tells me if I'm not in active labour then yes, if I am in active labour then I'll only be able to sleep between cnx (which were still fairl irregular, coming anywhere between 8 - 12 mins apart). I asked again if she thought I was in active labour and she snapped 'NO'! I had the peth.
5:30/6am ish - I was in an incredible amount of pain and by this time was ready for an Epi. DH yet again had to go searching for MW who was found sitting in front of another pack of chips and was not happy to be taken away from her food again! She came in and in her own words told me to suck it up as I 'wasn't in active labour and still had a long way to go'. 'No one would even consider giving me an Epi if I wasn't in active labour!' then just walked out. I felt like a complete sook.
6:50am - I was having pain even when I wasn't having contractions, it was aweful! I had been begging mum and DH to go and get the MW as I had to be in active labour by now, I could no longer handle the pain I was in and was desperate for help. Poor DH was getting a little distressed by now, he was not happy with the MW and her treatment all night and now hated watching me in such a state. He was fantastic all, rubbing my back, rocking with me, breathing through my conx with me and giving me strength by simply telling me how strong I was, counting down the seconds until the cont would pass, etc etc but now had had enough and once again went out to the MW telling her I needed the Epi. She came back in and just said 'shift change at 7am, they canc decide what to do with you. You're not in active labour, they'll never give it to you, but I'll tell then anyway.' DH went red, looked as though there was going to be steam coming out of his ears in no time, but thankfully he bit his tongue.
7:15am - I began screaming on the top of my lungs, "There is something wrong, there is something wrong, you need to get me help". Mum and DH calmly both told me everything was ok, the MW would tell the new MW what was going on and would be in as soon as they could. Mum went for a litte walk and DH took my to the toilet, I couldn't wee. I began screaming once again "There is something wrong, please please get me help, there is something wrong" My contrations were coming regularly 8 minutes apart, but the pain wasn't going away at all, not even easing in between cnx, it really wasn't right, there had to be something wrong.
7:30 - A new MW heard my screams and came rushing in to see if everything was ok. I told her there was something wrong and I desperately needed an Epi, I couldn't do this anymore, I just can't handle such in tense pain with no break from it! She told me I needed to be checked first, then they'd organise the Epi. Whilst checking she found there was some membrain in the way and needed to be cleared, which she did, then BAM... I felt bubs head shoot down the birth canal and I yelled, "Quick, catch it, the head is coming out!" The MW got everything ready super fast and buzzed for another MW as I was now pushing and ready to go. With the first push I felt the burn of a crowing head (I hadn't felt this the first time as all I felt was the 3rd deg tear, much worse than the burn I tell you!!! hahaha). When the cnx stopped, the pain eased, apart from the burning, and I began begging again, 'please don't let me tear, please'. I was terrified! I couldn't calm myself. I had mum, Josh and the MW doing their very best to clam me down. They told me to relax and LISTEN, I was to do as I ws told to avoid such a bad tear this time round. I did as I was told, 8 minutes had passed before I had my next cnx, one little push and I was told to stop, the MW gently eased bub out and I felt myself tearing. I panicked. Then WOOSH out surf our baby! My fore waters broke with bubs shoulders coming out!!! Bub was put straight on my belly which was lovely, but I was still very scared about what was to come... I couldn't stop thinking about the stitchers. Mum asked 'Well what do we have?' "Oh yeah, is it a girl or boy?" I asked!! 'A girl, oh no, ah yeah, its a girl... I think' DH says!!! I had a look, "Yep, we have another princess" (Who was swollen down their, hence a little confusion! lol)
Hadley Maree
Born at 7:40am 4th May 2010
3.18kg (7lb) 48cm and 34.7cm HC
apgars of 9 & 9
Thankfully I had only sustained a 2nd deg tear this time that was repaired properly and is healing perfectly! My labour was put down as 6 hours which just made me laugh as only 40 mins before the delivery I was told I wasn't in active labour! The MW we had through the night did not want to deliver me. Had she cleared everything away earlier in the morning, we would have met our little girl even earlier than we did, but thankfullly DD was born happy and healthy so no harm done.
I have never been happier!! Miss H is settling in beautifully and Miss T is completely in love with her. I feel so blessed to have them both, just sad I'm not preg any more... But theres always next time!!!
Thanks for reading and a very well done to you if you got through it all!!!
Well done beautiful!
What a shame that awful chip eating midwife was so narky and horrible!
But lok at what you made and achieved you should be so proud xxxx
What a cranky midwife its like she knew what was best and totally ignored your mothering insticts. Im glad everything worked out for you and you had another beautiful little girl congratulations.
What an absolutely WRETCHED first midwife you had. I ceratainly hope she gets reprimanded for that. There is something seriously wrong with her having left you like that for so long.
Wow Tiff you did a bloody fabulous job!! Congratulations on the safe arrival of your little girl
I am horrified at the actions of the night MW I am in shock at her "actions" or lack of and they way in which she spoke to everyone, just so very wrong
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The Birth of Hadley Maree (very long, sorry!)
Not a nice start to things! lol
I was asked if I wanted some peth so I could have a nap as I 'wasn't yet in active labour' and bub would be a long way off. I burst into tears as I didn't want any pain meds this time round. I declined the peth.
The MW got everything ready super fast and buzzed for another MW as I was now pushing and ready to go. With the first push I felt the burn of a crowing head (I hadn't felt this the first time as all I felt was the 3rd deg tear, much worse than the burn I tell you!!! hahaha). When the cnx stopped, the pain eased, apart from the burning, and I began begging again, 'please don't let me tear, please'. I was terrified! I couldn't calm myself. I had mum, Josh and the MW doing their very best to clam me down. They told me to relax and LISTEN, I was to do as I ws told to avoid such a bad tear this time round. I did as I was told, 8 minutes had passed before I had my next cnx, one little push and I was told to stop, the MW gently eased bub out and I felt myself tearing. I panicked. Then WOOSH out surf our baby! My fore waters broke with bubs shoulders coming out!!! Bub was put straight on my belly which was lovely, but I was still very scared about what was to come... I couldn't stop thinking about the stitchers. Mum asked 'Well what do we have?' "Oh yeah, is it a girl or boy?" I asked!! 'A girl, oh no, ah yeah, its a girl... I think' DH says!!!
I had a look, "Yep, we have another princess" (Who was swollen down their, hence a little confusion! lol)
Well done beautiful!
well done what a great story thanks for sharing
I am in shock at her "actions" or lack of and they way in which she spoke to everyone, just so very wrong
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