Wow, there is so much in this post! The good was good and the bad was horrific.
I can't believe that the nurses didn't communicate with you about your baby...ummm, you only were in there to have her
Hopefully, they all listened about your dreams and what transpired and don't write off a mother's intuition so quickly.
You did very well - as you say, you had no choice, and to not listen to you is very professionally negligent (and personally negligent!).
Congratulations on getting through that rocky start to mothering Ella - fingers crossed you guys sail MUCH smoother waters from here on in!