thread: Nathaniels birth Story from a fatherly perspective.

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    firsttimedad Guest

    Nathaniels birth Story from a fatherly perspective.

    Birth Story from the viewpoint of a Father
    Where Do I begin this wonderful Long Story

    Wednesday 2nd February
    We had our usual weekly checkup at the birthing center at the Royal Women’s Hospital at 8pm. During the check up the usual observations were taken. BP was high and protein levels also high which concerned the midwife. So under consultation with ob and midwife Renae was checked into labour ward was observation overnight (or so we thought.) In the labour ward our Nurse (named Deb who would be a regular nurse of ours over days to come) saw us hook Nae up to CTG machine and keep eye on Nae BP nad baby HB on regular basis. I stayed in at the hospital over night to keep eye on my beautiful wife.

    Thursday 3rd February
    Doctors saw Nae early morning. Advised BP coming down which was good but protein levels were still quite high which she will need 24 urine test monitoring. And still regular BP to be taken. Also doctors advised to finish up work immediately. I took off the day as sick leave and spent day by Nae’s bedside. Things were pretty smooth sailing for the rest of the day. I left the hospital at about 8 or 9pm to get some sleep b4 work the next morning.

    Friday 4th February
    Early hrs of the morning Nae was transferred to Neo Natal Ward as nothing was really happening. I went to work for 7am start and when my manager (Sonja) came in at 8am and said to me “What are you doing here you meant to be with Nae” I wasn’t going to argue so Sonja also gave me the following week off as annual leave…how nice is that. Anyways went back into the hospital to see how things were going. All good was response and everything slowly returning to normal. The doctors gave her the all clear to go home which strict orders to relax and rest. Came home late that afternoon.

    Saturday 5th February
    Saturday was a fairly quiet day to start with. We headed to my brothers place that afternoon for some R&R with family. My SIL is expecting in June this year. Mum & Dad were both there as well. We all headed out for dinner at one of our favorite restaurants that evening. While at dinner Nae got call from her grandfather to advise her Great Uncle had just suffered a major stroke and was on life support (Which turned out to be major stroke but in stable condition) So with that added stress Nae’s BP went straight back up. We left dinner and went home. Half hour after we arrived home she wasn’t feeling the best violently throwing up etc.. Took her back into hospital as knew BP was back up. Got checked back in to the womens at about 9.30-10pm an overnight stay with possibly longer. The doctors at the time told us tests will be done and still maybe required to go home again in day or 2. Thankfully the next morning would be better news.

    Sunday 6th February
    Sunday morning came and doctor paid a visit and advised she wont be going home b4 baby is born this time and likely to be induced by wed or thur if nothing happened any earlier. Was also transferred back to the Neo-Natal Ward. Apart form this news the day went uneventfully.

    Monday 7th February Nathaniel’s Birthday
    The doctor visit this morning at around 9.30-10am was eventful and nerve racking if I do say so myself. The doctors advised Nae would be induced as soon as labour ward bed becomes available, due to the continual High BP and protein levels and risk of early signs of Pre-Eclampsia. At around 11.30 bed was available and we were on the move again. Just before 12 in the labour ward the Doctor broke Nae’s waters and soon after this labour surely kicked in. at time of that examination Nae had already Dilated to 2cms. And yes it’s a scary thought for us DH and DP’s as well watching your wife/partner in labour. Back to story…Around 1pm my FIL arrived with his partner Chris(who is a registered nurse). Chris was invited at this time as support person as our intended support person was at work and couldn’t get away. Chris throughout the next few hrs gave myself and Nae great support by being there when I was out of the room needing a break or whatever. By 1.30-2pm she was calling for an epidural. Around 2.30 the epidural was in place. We gave her a little relief from pain but not the body pressures. Contraction continued steadily and growing within minutes apart. By at 5pm the nurse then asked me if I had eaten and said a lamington about 1hr ago but nothing else for the day and ordered me to go eat. When got back 20mins or so later at 5.30pm she was fully dilated. I then had to walk out and take a deep breath and composed to what was about to happen.

    After composing myself I walked back in and Nae was advised to rest as much as possible at this point. She had no urges to push at this time and baby was still a little high. at around 7pm she was asked to give a few pushes, which she didn't start getting the hang of till about 7.45pm but baby was being his little journey to the wide world. Round about 8pm the doctors little concerned Nae was getting a little stressed and advised us to move up to theatre. By time this was organized 5 or so minutes later the nurse could fell him only an inch away from the world, still was transferred to theatre. In theatre a few minutes later with a little help from a bit of suction Nathaniel was born at 07/02/2005 5 weeks prem. Weighing 7p12oz. Nathaniel Didn't requires specialist care at all and arrived back in the labour ward over half hour before Nae came back down from recovery. So dad had his little boy in his arms for good half hour before Mum had a chance to really say hello.

    On the Wednesday night following Nathaniel had a case of jaundice so had to be put in humidicrib (which we appropriatley said "He sunbaking in Queensland" ). He stayed in there till the Sunday morning following. Nae was lucky enough that he didn’t need specialist care and was able to stay in hospital with him until they both came home on Monday 14th.

    Anyway this was my story from the fatherly perspective.

    Kind Regards
    Rob “aka firsttimedad” Hoskin

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    That's a great story Rob and thanks for sharing it. It is wonderful to hear about it from a different view point


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    BellyBelly Member

    Feb 2005

    What a lovely story, thanks for sharing

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    ok take 2 of going back to work.....

    Nov 2004
    Giving the gift of life to a friend..

    A tremendous read, thanks for telling your side Rob!

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jul 2004

    Thanks for sharing the birth of Nathaniel from a dad's POV. Sounds like you both did a good job!

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    BellyBelly Life Member

    Jul 2004
    House of the crazy cat ladies...

    Wow Rob what a great story!! It certainly must have been stressful times for you guys, but I am so glad to hear that everything went well in the end and little Nathaniel is healthy and beautiful
    Congrats again!!! =D>

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    BellyBelly Member

    Feb 2004
    Adelaide SA

    Great story Rob, congratulations again little Nathaniel is beautiful!

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    *Megan* Guest

    Thanks for sharing Rob - I just love the way you speak about your wife...truly lovely to read! Congratulations on your precious little boy


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    BellyBelly Member

    Nov 2003

    thanks for sharing your story rob, its always greta to hear things from a males view

    take care

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    Debbie Lee Guest

    Thanks for sharing your story, Rob! Sounds like you and Renae did an excellent job considering all the obstacles thrown in your path! I guess, at the end of the day, if bubs comes out nice and healthy, it's all worth it, hey?

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    Registered User

    Aug 2004
    Hunter Valley, Wine Country, NSW

    Thank you for sharing your birth story with us, it was a wonderful read.

    Take Care


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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Nov 2003
    Kilmore Vic

    The dad's perspective is very refreshing Rob!

    I am sure you felt like my DH afterwards, the overwhelming feeling of love for mother and child and the sense that something amazing had just happened (well that's what he said!) you did very well, and of course so did Nae.

    And to be so early but so big already, must be a comfort to Nae, looks like you were heading for a very big boy.

    Cheers Michelle

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Oct 2003
    Forestville NSW

    awww that was beautiful!! Well done Rob! You were obviously a fantastic support person!

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    firsttimedad Guest

    Me fantastic support person, thats funny I got told to Shut Up more times than I can count....HAHA

    Nah is was all good. got too enthusiastic at times....hehe


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    BellyBelly Member

    Feb 2004

    What a great story Rob! Well told and I bet Renae was so glad to have your support.

    That's great that Nathaniel didn't need any care afterwards either - looks like he was ready to meet you both.

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    Breastfeeding mummy extraordinaire

    Sep 2004
    Sydney's Norwest

    Thanks for sharing your story with us Rob. Mark has said that he could write a book on our bubs birth. Maybe I can get him to have a look at this and inspire him

    Take care

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    May 2004

    I swear you are not normal... You are so sweet and supportive! You seem to know how she was feeling which was great. You should be very proud of yourself. Renae is a very luck girl


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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Apr 2004
    Sydney, NSW

    Thank you for sharing Rob!

    It is fantastic to hear it from the other side.

    So glad that all went well in the end!