hey i have just had my first son n had a 3rd degree tear n they have already told me to consider having a c/s was just curios as to how big he was n did you have any problems with delivery? thank you soo much. n congratulations. sounds like you did n awesome job.
He was 3.3kg but I think the thing most likely to cause a tear would be the head circumference (sorry if I'm wrong) & also the taking your time through pushing the baby out.
I made sure I told the midwife beforehand that I'd like her to breath me through the pushing & tell me when I need to stop etc. That was my problem with DD, I just pushed her out, it only took 4 pushes & I didnt know I had to take it a bit slow.
Don't get me wrong, it's hard to stop pushing when thats all you want to do but keep it in the back of your mind about the tear & you'll be able to stop when needed.
I didnt have any probs during labour/birth (besides keeping my eyes open! LOL) & I highly recommend trying vaginally again for your next baby. Of course there's always a chance of a tear but apparently a slight second degree tear is quite normal & of course alot better than third degree.
I would definately go vaginal again if I ever had another baby.
I hope I've helped