DD1 loves books so I have gotten a few out from the library and they are put up and only come out when we are feeding. She sits beside me or on my lap and reads bubby her books. Each week we will go and get some more from the library together, at the moment it is working great.

She also has a big baby doll, and sometimes I will get her to bring it in with some blankets and bottles, she makes baby a bed in the clothes basket and feeds her the bottles. Boys can have dollies to , it has also helped at other times like bathing.

The main thing I was told was to try and not push the older child away during these times, all it will make them to is retaliate to get the attention back. She has basically been wanting to be involved since day dot, so no matter how frustrating it has been with DD1 trying to help or get my attention I have been trying to let her be involved, whether it be helping burp bubby by patting her bottom or giving her a face washer to help bath her. She has a little stool that she carries around the house to stand on while helping. So far she has been adapting really well.