breastfeeding, notsleeping through the night possible weaning..

[onthefly]

It's a tough spot, I know.
Look, babies love the breast. They love their mums, and they know that getting some boob will cure just about anything. So naturally they ask. And if mum's not there, then they have to make other arrangements.
If this is not working for you, then by all means, make some changes. There are lots of things you can try, with partial or full weaning a part of that. You'll find your better place with time.
A few things I will point out, just in the interest of providing perspective.
As said, babies love their mummies and need a secure attachment to whoever their primary carer is (usually this is mum, not always). So it's entirely natural, normal and desireable for them to be clingy. They will especially do this is they have to spend time apart from their primary carer - if mum's working or whatever. If you're breastfeeding, this need will often manifest as crazy mad feeding. But if you're not, that need will not go away. It's completely independent of the breastfeeding, it's just that boobs are a great way to get through it from the child's perspective.
So, baby/toddler is away from mum. .They're ok. Maybe they are a bit upset at first, maybe not, then they're fine. They play, they eat, they sleep. But then mum comes back.... and OHMYIMISSEDYOU!!!! they go nuts for mum. It's a good sign, really, that they're well attached.

You have done great feeding for 9 months. Maybe it's time now for you to stop. That's for you to decide. You will probably find that it is hard to find another settling method in the short term, but over time you will find something else that works.

[Stevie]

thanks girls,
im so torn, i know in the short term its actually goingto be harder, and then once we get a rythem, i cant ever go back.. im just tired and over having a little human attachment.
andi think thewhole weaning process isgoingto be just awfulfor everyone... he loves it so much and he wont understand.. he will survive, but will he hate me for it? or will his little personality change?
this parenting gig is hard sometimes..

[onthefly]

The important thing is that you're still there and still retain your attachment to him, feeding or not. This is what he will remember - not the specifics of it, but that sense of security. This is the most important thing.