Made it to eleven months feeding the girls which I am pretty chuffed about. Is it normal though for me to develop an aversion to it at this point? I'm just getting so tired of the fighting over me, the pinching and scratching that goes on, the evening chewing of my nipples when they have quickly drained my boobs etc etc. I love feeding E and G but I feel so chained to them as they are eleven months but won't take bottles and I dunno, maybe it's because of this that sometimes I feel resentful because so much lies on my shoulders as a result. AND I get really p1ssed when I've finally settled them to sleep at night then have to go and wash dishes while DH watches tv. Grrrrrrr.
Any who, please just reassure me that everyone goes through a phase round this stage where they are just over it.
PS both girls are sick and I do the twin thing on my own during the day plus one doesn't sleep at night - need I say more? And just now, I had G asleep until she coughed and spewed over both of us and E woke because of it all.
I am in awe of you well done mumma!! No advice but I am feeling chuffed with myself after only 4 months and 1 bubba so you have done/are doing amazing in my eyes x
I went through several phases of breastfeeding aversion with my twins, culminating at 22 months when it was all too much and I couldn't go on another minute. I can't say you will get over this because only you know yourself, but you have done an amazing job and I'm sure you will continue to do so whether you breastfeed any longer or not. But in the meantime maybe have a chat with your DH and explain the pressure you feel you are under and explain that you need him to step up with the housework because you are only one woman and you can't do it all. Good luck
You have really done an amazing job. Really! Breastfeeding is blamed for a lot of things - but I have to say up front, it’s not the fault of breastfeeding that you have to get up and do the dishes! You need to have a word with your bloke Yes, like anything else, it’s normal to feel “over it”. Even the things you love can be a chore, and there’s not a pink glow every time you breastfeed. I am convinced, also, that gentle discipline starts at the breast. It’s OK to say “no, don’t pinch” or “if you hit your sister you’ll have to hop off”. And you wouldn’t be human if you weren’t a bit ****ed about having to mop spew off yourself and your children. (Once again, not the fault of breastfeeding). You are doing an amazing job under difficult circumstances. You would be well within your rights to give it up - but something tells me you are going to keep going
Thanks for the replies. Yes, it was supposed to be entirely about breastfeeding but finished up being a little tirade about everything else bugging me as well!
Barb - I suspect you are right in that it is definitely not the end of our bf journey - DH and I had a little chat last night which I feel better about and we have even shifted the goalposts to carrying on feeding until 2 if it is still right for all of us. I do agree about the gentle disciplining at the breast and I do try and say no and removing little hands when they start to pinch and scratch - how does one enforce this when the owners of the little hands think its a big joke when mummy says no?
whilst I have no practical advice, as I constantly have scratch marks and bruises all over me.. but just wanted to say WELL DONE!! *cheers* 11mths bf twins is fantastic! !!
I also want to say well done and big cheers for a fantastic job! You go girl!!
I went through phases when feeding DS2. I'm sure it's all perfectly normal - well I hope it is because I felt much like you do at times. It's just like the little girl with a curl....when it's good, it is very very good, but when it's bad, it's horrid!
I just kept putting one boob, erm foot, in front of the other and kept plodding through those down times because I knew that the up times where just so worth it all. Just know that you are doing a fantastic job and your DH has to get off his a*** and do the washing up! BFing can really take it out of you.
Breastfeeding semi-aversion and general rant
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