Yep ham and soft cheese is fine. Pregnancy is very different because the baby is exposed to the same germs as you and some like listeria can cause still birth. In breastfeeding some things cross the milk like chilli and dairy proteins and caffeine, so watch for signs of reaction. Otherwise go for it. Even chilli I avoided of in the early months and caffeine didn't impact dd but did make ds wake in the night (but he was 8 months when I made the connection because he wouldn't go back to sleep at 2am if I'd had tea after 2pm)