Im hoping someone can help. My baby is 5 days old and last night was our first night home from hospital. Our babby slept like a dream in hospital for 4-5 hours at a time and would wake up, nappy change, feed and go back to sleep.
Last night was a nightmare! He wouldn't settle. I fed him milk from one side until he stopped sucking, he cried and was still making all the signs that he is still hungry so I fed him a small amount on the other side until he seems satisfied. Then he would not settle. We persisted for 4 hours trying to get him to sleep and did everything we could think of. He was acting like he was STILL hungry and ate another 30mls that I had managed to express from a bottle. After this he slept for about 3 hours and then wanted to be back on the boob again and then again 3 hours later again.
This morning we have bathed him and his poo was literally like water. No stools or paste or anything just water. He had a poo like this just as we were about to leave the hospital to come home and the midwife said it could be a sign that he is getting too much milk. How do I stop feeding a baby that screams and is hungry all the time?!!!
My boobs are so sore and nipples are cracked, I cry everytime he has to latch on. I dont know whether to go and buy some newborn formula today and try to feed what I can handle and then top him up. I've tried contacting the Child Health Nurse that I have been assigned but it keeps going to answering machine
Wow, newborn babies are a trick and designed to worry us endlessly! I'm not too sure what to tell you but maybe call the ABA for some advice. I know my baby would root around for food after a feed when he had wind and it took me a while to work out what was wind and what was genuine hunger?? I hope someone else can give you some better advice than that, but I would hold off on the formula if possible. Good luck x
Hi,
You sound exhausted! However, the situation doesn’t seem to be too far beyond normal. Often babies are fairly “mellow” the first days of life- perhaps getting over the birth. But, it is not really normal for newborns to feed 4 or more hourly - and it soon changes (often about the time you come home) Babies generally feed at least 8-12 times or more in 24hours. They are hard-wired to suck (a baby who can’t suck is a baby in trouble) Sucking feeds them, but also gives a nice mix of hormones to help them relax and sleep. And above all that he wants *you* - he has lived 9 mnths in side your body, it’s hard to adjust to life on the outside! Often babies will sleep on their dad’s chest, in that little froggy positon. Sometimes it helps to try a dummy after a feed to help them settle. It’s important to keep breastfeeding while you work out if this is a variation of normal or if it’s a problem, (more unlikely, but possible) giving formula can often make it worse. Get some rest and see how it goes. Get back to us after a few more feeds
Hi Amy! Sounds like you could use a bit of help. Do you have access to a lactation consultant at the hospital you birthed at? Or would you be open to calling one in private practice to come and see you?
It sounds like you're having some problems with attachment if your nipples are cracked and sore - definitely not normal and something that needs addressing. A good LC can watch you feed and help you trouble shoot and might be your best bet.
Can you feed lying down in bed to get some more rest? That can work well for some mums. Let us know if you want some pointers on how to do that.
Like Barb says, it is normal for babies to feed very frequently and to want to suck at the breast a lot. Actually, at this point, it's a good thing for him that he's waking up and demanding more milk - it's exactly what he needs - and it's generally quite fine to just keep on feeding through the unsettled periods. It's very hard on you, however, particularly if you're in pain. So your hubby is there helping out now? That's great, I'm sure that must be a big help for you.
Liquidy poo sounds quite normal for a newborn. An LC would be able to give you better advice (being able to actually see the poo).
From time to time, particularly in the next 12 months, there will be periods when he needs you. Just you. And he'll ask for the breast if you're breastfeeding because that's what he's programmed to do. These times pass, though. You may also find that a sling or carrier is helpful and that's something daddy can do, too.
Another option is calling the ABA helpline just for reassurance. I had issues with BFing DS2 and being able to call was a godsend. I also linked in with my local ABA group to meet other people going through BFing and bounce ideas off. Hope tonight is better Amy!
Oh Amy big first babies are tough! (well mine often was anyways) like everyone else has said it doesn't sound 'un-normal'. Do you think he may have been overtired when you gave him that first difficult feed last night? I know that in my experience nb babies especially in the first 2-4wks really can't cope with being awake longer than 5 or 10mins after a good feed and change so if he had already been awake a while maybe just needed to sleep more than keep feeding, even if that's NOT what he thought. If it were me (now probably not with ds1 ) I woulve given him a feed until he stopped, burped and wrapped for a sleep. Then I wouldve started afresh 2-2 1/2hrs later. I honestly wouldn't recommend letting a nb go 4-5hrs between feeds on a regular basis. Yes you need sleep and by all means a slightly longer gap at night is fine if bubbys happy to but its not good for your milk supply, even if you are engorged and have way too much now that can and likely will change very soon. Also its not great for babies (generally) as I touched on before its very easy for baby to just sleep the day away and then realize they are super hungry and just be frustrated and not be able to self settle enough to feed even when that's exactly what they want/need. Try take it easy on yourself I'm sure as much as anyone can be that he's totally fine and normal, its just stressful for everyone at this stage sometimes.
Also have you got some lansinoh for your nipples? If attachment isn't a problem and youre still sore (which is quite normal for now it'll pass) then it truly works wonders on hurting nips!
The only other thing I can think of is that the mw in hospital may be right about the runny poos, if you are really full/engorged it can be really hard for a little baby to latch on properly to feed and even when they do its likely mostly foremilk they will get which for lots of bubs gives painful wind. What I've found works is to express BEFORE feeding- just enough that you're comfortable and soft enough that baby will be able to easily latch on and also have a let down there already. Be a little careful not to pump to long tho or when you feed you'll get a second letdown and create more milk (better than too little but) generally if you're feeding straight away or within about 10mins should be fine.
Hope you're having a better day today and tonight also
Definitely call the ABA helpline. They've been amazing for me. It all sounds pretty normal, but it's so awesome to hear somebody reassuring you of that. I don't think he needs to be topped up, I think formula would just introduce more problems than it would help at this stage. Breastmilk is so much more than just food; its comfort and a painkiller too. He sounds healthy and normal to me, you're doing an awesome job.
Also, we have the too much milk issue here too, DD2's poos are always just water. I'd speak to the ABA or an LC first, but block feeding is helping us a lot here. Especially if a midwife has said you might have a lot of milk, next time you feed him and he fusses like he's still hungry, try him on the same boob again and see how you go
DD always wanted to suck and suck and was then vomiting all the time (turned out she had reflux). So that I didn't feel like a dummy I actually gave her one the first night we were home from the hospital (not recommended I know). I'd give it to her if she'd been feeding for 40ish mins and not seeming to be taking milk anymore. It helped a lot in our situation and allowed my nipples to have a bit of a break - they were oh so sore in the beginning!
Hi Amy. All the advice above sounds spot on. I have a four day old but this is my second- unfortunately I am again dealing with sore nipples. I have no advice on the runny poo, but don't forget that alternating panadol and nurofen can help at least a little with the nipple pain. I can totally relate to the crying during feeding from my first and the pain can be overwhelming, especially if you are still dealing physically with a difficult birth.
Be kind to yourself and do whatever you need to do to get through it. Best of luck.
As others have said, first babies are a steep learning curve. Most of us have been in a similar situation I think, you always wonder if you're doing the right thing - or at least, what "else" could you be doing. Hugs on your breastfeeding pain - you have my sympathy. Once my breasts got used to feeding the pain disappeared completely, so please know it won't always be like this. Honestly, to me you sound like you're doing really well - as well as you can with a five-day-old baby who is learning all about life and you who is learning all about babies.
Can't believe you were left with the pump on and no instructions. Not good at all! And re: watery poos, that was the norm for my babies, particularly DS2 and DS3 who fed like troopers. I think DS2 did a poo 4-5 times a day for the first 2-3 weeks, he guzzled so much milk
Thanks girls, such a relief to know most of what is going on is normal!!!
Yeah I have some of those hydrogel breast pads, they are great. My sister in law is coming to visit tomorrow and she is bringing her Electric Madela Pump for me to use instead of the manual one I am using at the moment.
When I changed his nappy earlier the poo was more pastey than it was before so thats a relief!
Yep totally agree with all of the above and as a past exclusive expresser (on the pump for 10 months) Lansinoh rubbed into nipples and then air dried or even just some breast milk rubbed in and air dried can help too
Sorry ur having such a hard time, bf is hard and for me both girls i have had excellent latch everything fine but have ended up cracked bleeding and in lots of pain, no amount of lc help fixed it as theyve all been stumped when they watched thwm feed. The poos sound normal. Fwiw dd2 is 8mths and i still have a huge crack in my left breast that nothing ive done or been prescribed will heal and the right one has a small crack that too wont heal, but the pain stopped at about 10/11wks so ive just continued to bf. Ur doing a great job
Amy jellybean congratulations on your beautiful baby. And welcome to the world of breast feeding! My DD is 11 months and the early days were hard for us in terms of breast feeding and settling. My DD didn't sleep at all in hospital or at home unless she was cuddled to sleep and held while she slept. I tried to fight that, insisting on putting her into her cot once asleep but she always stirred and cried then couldn't be settled. As all babies do, she grew out of that as she adjusted to life on the outside but next time around baby is sleeping on me!
As for the poo, as you noticed it changes so much when they're little. Green poo, frothy poo, compact poo... It's all normal!
You are doing an amazing job and you should be proud. Breast feeding is an incredible gift we bestow upon our children and it's the most natural thing in the world but that doesn't mean it isn't hard sometimes. Be proud and in time things will get better, always.
Amy Jellybean, it's great that you have a plan to go on with, and the right people around you as well. In those very difficult early days, i always felt better if I had a plan to follow, even though things kept changing and the plan had to be changed accordingly, every other day! FX a few days of pumping only on that side will help the nipple to heal.
Help! 5 day old breastfed baby with water poo's
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) I woulve given him a feed until he stopped, burped and wrapped for a sleep. Then I wouldve started afresh 2-2 1/2hrs later. I honestly wouldn't recommend letting a nb go 4-5hrs between feeds on a regular basis. Yes you need sleep and by all means a slightly longer gap at night is fine if bubbys happy to but its not good for your milk supply, even if you are engorged and have way too much now that can and likely will change very soon. Also its not great for babies (generally) as I touched on before its very easy for baby to just sleep the day away and then realize they are super hungry and just be frustrated and not be able to self settle enough to feed even when that's exactly what they want/need. Try take it easy on yourself I'm sure as much as anyone can be that he's totally fine and normal, its just stressful for everyone at this stage sometimes.
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