With DS1 my first aim was to get to 3 months and that part was definately the hardest. After i made 3 months i thought WOW, i did it!! Now i'll try make it to 6 months, it was a bit easier to get to there and again i did it!! After that i was happy to just see how things went. Being my first child and not knowing any different i was told by the MCHN that i could cut out the lunch feed, then the night feed (by 12 months) and then by 13 months we were only having the morning feed and my impression of this was that he really wasn't fussed if he had it or not. So i stopped and he never ever asked for it again. He is and always has been a very placid child, just takes things as they come.

With DS2 we have almost been feeding for 10 months and i will do things differently this time (i know differently now), i will not cut out any feeds (except for going back to work 2 days a week, which will effect the lunch feed on those days, only 3 weeks unti i'm back ). I am staying positive that this will work and he will want to continue feeding otherwise. He is a busy boy but i hope i will continue to be able to give him that 5 or 10 min of quiet time with me for many more months yet.

We have never co-slept but having said that out of exhaustion in the early weeks with DS2 there were occasions when he slept with us. Still now if he wakes for a feed and i'm tired i'll lay down and feed him and i enjoy this so much. I never did it with DS1 again being a first time mum and not being confident to do what's not generally advised by the MCHN.

I many ways being i'm more confident to make decisions for me and my child now because i'm a second time mum and also from the expereinces i have read here on BB.