Sorry I haven't had time to read all the other posts, so forgive me if somebody else has said/asked the same thing... Are you using the nipple shield full time? If you're not I would just start using it all the time for the time being so you can get rid of the bottles and get her used to the idea that milk comes from mummies boobies.

I had lots of problems with breastfeeding due to inverted nipples and literally couldn't get DS to attach without a shield. At around the same time as you're at I just decided that if we were going to have any sort of breastfeeding relationship it would have to be with shields. Over the next couple of weeks we both got used to everything, then when he got 12 weeks I was able to gradually wean him from the shields because his mouth was that bit bigger, his suck was stronger and he had a good idea of what he was doing iykwim?

There's nothing wrong with using shields if that's what makes you able to BF hun, I know they can be a PITA but they don't necessarily have to be forever either. GL x