At 30 months I am not sure this is any worse than putting it on their thumbs to stop them sucking them - I have a thumb sucker who is reducing her thumb sucking to only at night time through bribery at the moment but I wouldn't rule out the nail stuff (because the thumb sucking is such a reflex thing she doesn't even know she is doing it half the time). DD is 36 months and has taken up wanting a feed again after weaning herself at 22 months and while at the moment I am happy with a little feed before bed time, I do have to tell 'fibs' at other points in the day - feeding DS in the day is enough for me (maybe if she had continued feeding right through would be different but after not feeding for 9 months or so is different, especially because she is no longer very good at it).
HotI you Are right but to me it pret cruel and it is poison. Who knows what's in it. I Am not crucifying her at all it's her choice but I believe it's cruel.
I never had to tell Isaac white lies to wean him off day feeds. He its the most determined strong willed little person I have ever known. And I just told him that he's a big boy and that boobies are for bedtime. :shrug: It worked fine. Now he tells me that boobies are for bedtime.
I think it's cruel and there are numerous other (better) ways to wean a child.
As it is designed for being put on nails and ingested is probably safer than many things that toddlers put in their mouths/ingest as at least has been designed with that in mind (as opposed to shampoo bubble bath etc which get ingested through drinking bath water and the like).
I am sure there are 'natural' alternatives to the stuff in the bottle - it tastes like ear wax so maybe that is an alternative, chilli would work too but might not be so good for your nipples :-)- but really is one of those things either you agree with the 'method' e.g. using something to discourage feeding and to me the actual stuff used to simulate the taste is neither here nor there.
Would it be worse to just tell your child they taste bad?
Sounds like the toddler was ready but just needed a bit of encouragement to give up - all kids are different, some need to 'experience' things just being told doesn't work. If this woman goes on to breastfeed for an extended amount of time subsequent children because she feels she has a method for ending it when the time is right then that is a positive in my book.
I was just looking for info on weaning & found this. Have to say, I seriously considered it! Though I'm not so sure it would stop DD. She's very persistant
I was going to find a sauce or something she didn't like. That will be my last resort. I know heaps of people who've weaned that way & heapes of people who were weaned that way. A close friend was weaned with chilli sauce at 3 & still breast fed her DS til he was 2.5. So it didn't cause her any issues
Its hard with a toddler. They know where the boobs are, they can quite easily help themselves. They know how to ask & yell for it & have an awesome memory! My DS is 4, hasn't had boob for over 2 years, but still lives with a hand down my tshirt for comfort.
I wouldn't suggest it for a 7 month old, because they won't understand a boob going yucky like an older child can. It'd be pointless.
I'm thinking I'd rather my boobs go yucky & DD decide she's done, than listen to her scream the way she is now because she wants her boob
Clover, it is so hard. Hope she gives you a break soon.
we had cut down to one feed a day and then dd got sick and so was having more. now, whenever she wants a feed she tells me "i'm tired" or "i hurt". for a little while i thought she was starting to recognise how her body was feeling and when she needed sleep, but i actually think they were just euphanisms for "i want boob".
thats awful! to be honest thats why i deleted myself from some of the pages that kept putting up "ok so our mum needs advice on blah blah" i found people put up some horrible solutions, and i got attacked for what i put up. it was just awful.
I actually did something similar with my 18 month old (who is now 18). My mother ground up bitter gourd (which is edible by the way) and I slathered it on my nipples to get DS2 to stop breastfeeding. .
He didn't like the taste at all, because it was bitter, and he quit breastfeeding. It was aversion therapy that, to me at the time, seemed less cruel than just saying 'no, you can't have it because I say so'. He just went from liking the breast to not liking it anymore and willingly gave it up.
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Clover, it is so hard. Hope she gives you a break soon.
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