WRT to the breastfeeding after solids...yes, breastmilk is the most important source of nutrition till 12 months but there has to be a transitional phase, you know? It's not like on their first birthday all of a sudden everything changes, you cut back on their milk and increase their food. You can maybe offer solids before bfing once a day, then after about 6 weeks twice a day etc etc. It is also to encourage their interest in food. They will still get plenty of breastmilk. And a nice soothing breastfeed is a lovely way to finish off a meal.

Just to give you a different perspective...you are just swapping the order, not cutting anything out.

As for getting DH up at night - if you know that won't work and the current situation doesn't bother you, then ignore what she said. Yes, they "should" be sleeping through the night but they don't always do what they are "supposed" to be doing and you have to do what works, especially at 2am in the morning! I was still breastfeeding my DS in the middle of the night at 16-17 months old.