For me the hot shower was the go, I could never express well when I was engorged.
I had to hand express a bit then use the pump.

No help really am I, hope it all sorts out soon, hate that feeling.

DD1 used to fall asleep, I'd change her half way through a feed, and would use a cool cloth on her belly to wake her, she often fed in just a nappy too.

Sent from my iPhone, more than likely while I should be doing something else!