I experienced it also with my first. Even from midwives...

It is so hard to deal with this negativity & I do agree it's largely transference.

Come in here and know you will be supported. Babies don't magically sleep because of formula. Babies are little people with different needs at different times. Adjusting to this big wide world. Some do it easily & with little "to do". Others need more time, comfort and attention.

What you are struggling with is what most Mamas have to struggle with - so good on you for flying in the face of those who encourage you not to listen to your inner voice.

I would just be strong (I was) & smile & say you are "doing what you believe is right for you, your baby and your family. Thankyou though for your input"...

Big understanding cuddles my love...