Not strictly a breastfeeding question, but its still about boobs!
Hi Ladies
I b/f my boy until he was 2 and I had, had enough. He would have stayed on them if he could but I really couldn't do it anymore. He is still absolutely into my boobs. He now just grabs them all the time. He still sleeps with me for part of the night and insists on having his hand down my top the whole time. During the day if he sits on me, or is just close to me, his hand is straight down my top.
Has anyone had this, did they just stop eventually stop or did you really need to get tough and say no?
no personal experience, but i have seen a few threads about this exact thing, and there are alot of women on here with kiddlets who do the same thing. so hopefully one of them will come and contribute =)
My DD is almost three, she self weaned at about 20 months when I was pregnant. She is very obsessed with my boobs, if she is sat on me wants hand down my top, if laying together needs to touch them. Just recently she has wanted occasional feed while her brother is, which is ok with me if at home. In terms of the touching I am now telling her no more if we are not at home, and now only at specific times as am fed up of her stretching my tops. It is a habit thing she often isn't really aware she is doing it her thumb goes in and other hand reaches for boob - she was even trying to do it to my mum the other day! Specific times like before sleeping or if really upset I don't mind as just touching works wonders for settling but not everytime she is near me.
DD self weaned at 16 months.. She is 2 now and constantly asks to "awww mummy's boobies" then hugs them. She is obsessed with them! It must just be a comfort thing
DD weaned this time last year, and I can say that she was similar. It sent me crazy so we needed to take action. I ended up removing her hand whenever she put it down my top and I would hold her hand for cuddle her. Then I started explaining that I preferred her hand to not go down my top and she could cuddle me in other ways. It worked, she rarely does it now, and if she does all I have to do is say DD2, please no, not there, but lets have a cuddle instead.... Shes pretty happy with that.
Mind you though, the other thing she does which sends me crazy is when we are co-sleeping she will put her hand and arm up my sleeve so that her hand comes out of the neck hole, or if Im on my side she'll put her arm up the back of my shirt and hand will come out of the neck hole (again) then she'll place her hand back on her head... She ends up trying to choke me! And the absolute worst, she has to place her foot down my pj pants, and will rest her foot in my umm, err, crack... She does the same to dh and that freaks him out totally! lol
I weaned DS just after 2 and 1/2 and yes he is still obsessed with my boobs too. Especially in times of comfort. I have essentially discourage him when we are out and about. We also co-sleep and he definitely reconnects with them then
Thanks ladies. It seems a lot of little ones do it for comfort.
When DS does it he either gets right onto my nipple and squeezes or opens and closes his fists so his nails are continuously rubbing on the same spot on my skin, I have to say it sends me crazy. He is still little though and I know he is just re-connecting so I feel bad saying no all the time.
beansbeans: I might try the give my hand a cuddle.
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