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  1. #1
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    Aug 2010
    Gold Coast
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    Not sure where to put this...HELP!

    Hi, I am in desperate need of advice. My hubby just got made redundant on Tuesday So we are both currently looking for work, hoping he gets a job but one of us needs to be working and in the interim that may be me. My DD is just 4 months old and has been exclusively breast feeding since the day she was born, which I am so proud of because I lost my supply with my first 2 bubs (various different reasons, sever endometritis etc).
    Here's the problem- she WILL NOT take the bottle, refused a dummy etc. Anything that isn't a boob or her fist seems to choke her (she gags like we are trying to kill her). I have tried all different types of bottles and nothing is working. I'm already devastated about possibly leaving her while she's so young to return to work, let alone the thought of her extremely distressed, hungry and screaming.
    What do I do? HELP!

  2. #2
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    Aug 2006
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    Not sure where to put this...HELP!

    Hi Yas, I'm not really sure what you can do. But just wanted to say sorry you are all going through it. My DH has been made redundant before and it is very stressful. Best of luck xo

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    Aug 2010
    Gold Coast
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    Thanks Hun It is so stressful. Not to mention the fact they did it exactly a month before the end of the financial year which has screwed us over with centrelink

  4. #4
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    Jan 2007
    WA
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    Not sure where to put this...HELP!

    Sorry to hear about your DH.
    Could you try bottle feeding when someone else does it (not you) and you are not around (at least in another room)? Sometimes bubs won't take the bottle when they know boob is right there

  5. #5
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    Aug 2009
    in the victorian bush.
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    Not sure where to put this...HELP!

    Is there an option for you husband to bring your child to your work place at feed times??

  6. #6
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    Oct 2006
    In a house, on a hill with a big fat welcome mat!
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    Not sure where to put this...HELP!

    Oh sweetie hugs x
    I have had to express and have someone feed her on the 1.5 days per week I am back at work since she was 2 weeks old. I find if I am around she chokes gags and fusses but it fine when I am not there. My dd also won't take a dummy. Maybe as suggested above try that.
    I hope your dh gets a job first! x

  7. #7
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    Oct 2007
    Middle Victoria
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    My LO never took ebm from a bottle either. Can your partner bring her to you for feeds?

    My Mum has had some luck in spoon feeding ebm to my DD and to other grandkids.

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    Aug 2010
    Gold Coast
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    Thanks for the replies and hugs girls.
    I dforgot to mention I did leave her on Friday night with DH. Her last feed was at 6:30pm and I didn't get back until 11:30. She refused to feed that whole time Apparently she screamed and screamed then went to sleep then woke up and screamed some more. I was upset at DH for not ringing me to tell me because I would've come back.
    I got a call from a job I applied for this afternoon for an interview, but DH got an email about an interview today too so here's hoping I won't have to worry about it!

  9. #9
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    Oct 2007
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    Sounds like my little one. your DH gets the job.

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    Sep 2008
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    My daughter was the same, then I was told to try the brand "mam" and the teats worked, they also fit into avent bottles. They are much softer and thinner.