Ummm... my 8 yo wants to BF!!

[beckoes]

Good lord, all I can think of is that 8 yo BF girl in that documentary... 'I think mummy's BM is better than melon's'!!!

i had to chuckle at that!!

i think you did everything perfectly. ihave a fe probs with dd1 and she is only three, but not feeding anymore.

[Catherine]

sounds like you are approaching it with love and understanding. If she wants the taste, expressing some for her might be a good idea (can't get a healthier drink!). I like the idea a PP had to let her drink it from a cup whilst having a snuggle.

Does she like helping you with the baby? Does she like to help you cook a meal? or a cake (or something simple)?

Keep up the good work NICKLE

[jackrose]

I remember wanting to breast feed when I was an older child while watching mum breast feed my youngest brother. I would have been about 4 though. I remember being desperate to do it and I think it was a jealousy thing. I can sort of remember wanting to do all the baby things like have a nappy change, sit in a high chair etc. I think it was all about being nurtured. I remember mum being firm but kind about it, letting me have a taste as you have done and me loving the sweet taste of the milk.

After mum told me I couldn't breast feed from her as it was only for the baby, I was a little put out but got over it pretty quickly. My mother was pretty good at understanding what was behind my desire and trying to let me act out the baby stuff in other ways as well as (I am sure but can't remember exactly) giving me extra attention and nurturing in other ways. The way you described you handled it reminds me very much of what my mother said and brought back a flood of vague memories of the time. I think you have handled it very well. Keep in mind that your daughter is 8, I was only 4 and I remember very vividly the moment and exchange. I am sure your daughter will too so your gentle explanation will help her form a good memory of respect and understanding about the place breast feeding has in our lives.

You can use this desire of hers to make a special ritual of nurture for the two of you as she is at an age where a bond like that will be appreciated. Maybe you could set up a special daily massage for her, some hands on contact and one on one time for just yourself and her. If you incorporate some special scents she chooses, some candles and some cuddles, she might feel that breast feeding is a poor second alternative