I'd give up everything, within reason. Obviously if I had severe medical issues and/or needed medication that was not to be used while bfing, I'd ff. Bfing is really important to me, and DS and I really enjoy it
I don't mind abstaining from alcohol, giving up my underwire bras, and not having all-nighters. No different to when I was pregnant anyway.
I was lucky and don't feel I had to give up anything however have put my thoughts here on each of the points
health? - no - in general, would not give up my health. if my health was suffering to the extent it was affecting my ability to parent or my happiness I would have given up b/f.
career? - yes, for women the ability to have babies has a limited timeframe. I believe you can get a career back after the children are older.
sport? - definitely - but it is not a priority for me.
habit? - Not sure - I don't smoke and don't drink much (chocolate is my only vice!) and DD was pretty much happy with whatever I ate and drank so didn't have to
Well i didn't give up anything to BF (bit of sanity maybe in the few months we both beat our heads against a brick wall) but I did give up some things to exclusively express until DS was 12 months old.
health - no. For me, expressing was beneficial for my health and DS's health following gestational diabetes.
career - I was on maternity leave regardless, my purpose was to look after DS
sport - aaah the prolapse, the pelvic floor nerve damage and the giant hooters took care of the running - so no more triathlons. I've learned to love walking instead.
habit - can still do chocolate i'm ok
sanity - I'm adding this one in. When some folks implied that I was giving up my sanity by spending hour after hour glued to a breastpump - well I had my moments I must admit. I suppose I gave up "me" time (maybe?) or spending more time with DS isntead of pumping and like anyone, some days were better than others. But I also managed to make expressing "me" time... watching TV, in front of the PC, reading a book etc. Geez, my record was feeding DS a bottle, drinking a cuppa, talking on the phone and expressing (handsfreee double pumping), I truly didn't know I could be so clever . When I got to 6 months and MIL said he doesn't need it anymore... well the second 6 months was FAR easier than the first... and I couldn't find a good enough reason to stop. Was I a martyr, would I do it again? Dunno but at the time it felt right, and that's all anyone can do.
Is this off track because it's not BF or FF?... I guess it's just a different perspective.
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