Why do people feel to tell you how long you should breastfeed for???? Grrrrrrr....
Ok, so I just got off the phone to my mum (of all people) and, well, I'm a little bit disappointed.
Actually, change that, I'm down right p****d off!!
She keeps asking when I'm going to wean my little man. I told her that I'm letting him lead me and that at the moment we are dropping the midday feed (he was sick last week, so naturally - and following my doctors advice - I breastfed him as often as he wanted). Once he gets used to that (and he's happy with it) we will drop the morning feed and, then lastly the nighttime feed.
She then (jokingly) said, oh you're not going to be one of those people that feed until they're 16 - haw-haw-haw.....
I said, no mum: Bubs is happy, I'm happy and DH is happy with the way things are and, that's all that matters really.
Anyhoo - just wanted to gripe away and see if anyone else has oppinionated (sp?) people in their lives who seem to know "better".
Cass72, gosh its so annoying and frustrating isnt it!!! I used to come back with 'well, its recommended you BF for the first 2 years and beyond by the WHO and you wouldnt go overseas with out getting the vaccinations the WHO recommend, would you? So why do differently in realtion to BFing?'. Then when that one got old and we still get the when are you gonna stop, I simply reply 'Im hoping shes ready to wean before high school', that kinda stops them in their tracks. I havent thought of the next one but Im gonna have to get a new come back soon
You are doinga nd have done a fabulous job of feeding your little man and you should be so incredably (sp?) proud!!!
i feel very lucky because i had very few comments. i always use the WHO recommendation when talking about BFing. i weaned my DS at 20 months but because he only fed before sleep, i don't think many people realised i was still BFing!
i think the response to your mum was a great one - they are the things that matter
I like to tell them 'the natural weaning age is around 5 to 6 years old'. We might get to 2 years and still be happy feeding, so i like to have a few more years up my sleeve.
Why is it any of her business? Does she know how many drinks a day you have or what you eat for dinner each night? It's so silly that people have opinions about it.
I'm still feeding dd, because it's easy and works for us. Simple. My boobs, my baby my life.
it's hard when it's your own mum...but maybe stop discussing it with her.
Arcadia - I didn't actually bring it up: she did! which makes it even more "aaaaargh". I'm going to adopt that as my new mantra: MY boobs, MY baby, MY life. Ok, DH might argue the point that they're actually his boobs .... but that being said, he's still happy with me to continue breastfeeding.
I'll have to look up the WHO thing so I can quote it.
urgh! some people think it is there god given right to tell us how to parent our children, i was told the other day to refuse all nappies even at night time for my 2 year old :O
I got very few "when are you going to stop BF" comments, but when I did, I used to quote to WHO guidelines (2 years and beyond). Now that DD is over 3, we fed only at home, but if anyone were to question it I would talk about the immunologial benefits. The last immunisation children in Australia get is at 4 years old, so it makes sense to BF until that time (provided both mum and toddler want to).
yes I had them here too (we weaned when DS was 33 mnths) my favourite response when I was questioned (especially when he was drinking cow's milk) was to simply ask them why they think another animal's milk is better then what I produce?.... I didn't get many response's
Why do people feel to tell you how long you should breastfeed for???? Grrrrrrr....
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Cass72, gosh its so annoying and frustrating isnt it!!! I used to come back with 'well, its recommended you BF for the first 2 years and beyond by the WHO and you wouldnt go overseas with out getting the vaccinations the WHO recommend, would you? So why do differently in realtion to BFing?'. Then when that one got old and we still get the when are you gonna stop, I simply reply 'Im hoping shes ready to wean before high school', that kinda stops them in their tracks. I havent thought of the next one but Im gonna have to get a new come back soon 
.... but that being said, he's still happy with me to continue breastfeeding.
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