Oh you poor thing. I went through this with DS between 18 and 24 months. I counted one day - 19 feeds!!!!!!!!!!! I wasn't working or anything at the time and it drove me bananas. I eventually had to wean him because I was really getting upset and frustrated and also very resentful. (Poor DH copped it too, I was like, "WOULD EVERYONE JUST GET THE EFF OFF ME!!!"). So I can totally relate to how you're feeling.
I think for me, part of the resentment was the relentlessness of it. If I could just have an hour or two to sit down and relax without someone climbing on me, I felt a lot better. I reckon the opportunity to sit down and have a break once a day without having Jazz nag you for a feed might help.. Could Shell take her outside for an hour? Maybe then you could do the same in return - if you take her somewhere different, like a park, she'll run around and play and give you another hour's break from feeding.
I also found that refusing him made him ask more. Sometimes, as backwards as it seems, meeting his requests early in the day made for a better afternoon and I could decline him, distract him, put him off etc with more success.
Don't feel bad about the comment that she's fine when you're not there. Of course she is - your boobs aren't there to make her want them. It's not your fault, she's just trying to get in as much of her favourite activity as she can while the opportunity is there.
As for making it through the long weekend, I'd suggest getting out a lot, keeping busy, seeing different places. Anywhere but the couch/bed/whereever you usually sit when you feed her.
xx
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I can definitely sympathise with you mate..It can be so draining when ALL they want is boob. I haven't got a magical cure , but I would say can you take her down the park or out somewhere? I find distraction at home doesn't work a great deal, they really need to be in a totally different environment (out of the mummy feeding zone- your house!).
I would also make healthy icy poles for my kids too as another diversion..Something they can suck on and it's not me! That works quite well for us.
Hoping the feeding settles down for you real soon.
Just get out of the house and take Jazz with you - when she's outside with you she knows you won't be going away in a hurry, and there's more to keep her interested in things other than your boobs too. It will reduce - but I still have a 2 year old who feeds at bedtime on the days when I'm working and 4 or 5 times a day on the weekends.
How did your weekend go Leash? (I know you still have one more day left )
I also agree that it isn't all about the milk and could you say to Jazz just a cuddle and have some cuddle time? DS is the same... isn't worried when I am not about but if he has missed a feed time and I turn up the look on his face his priceless and he must feed straight away
Now that she is a little older could you delay the feed by saying let's play ball or read a book? so she is learning that you can have quality time in other ways?
It could also be that she is learning her boundaries.... you know the whole you say one thing and she wants another and they don't match so it is tantrum town?!.... how do you deal with her tantrums over other things? could you apply those strategies for when she doesn't 'need' a feed? (hope that makes sense)
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very resentful. (Poor DH copped it too, I was like, "WOULD EVERYONE JUST GET THE EFF OFF ME!!!"). So I can totally relate to how you're feeling.
, but I would say can you take her down the park or out somewhere? I find distraction at home doesn't work a great deal, they really need to be in a totally different environment (out of the mummy feeding zone- your house!).
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