Arg here I am again lipstick nipples and all

[Ladylove]

Thanks Em, will do.

[onthefly]

Congrats on your baby
Definitely get an LC to take a look at her mouth and tongue. It could well be that there's something there. If the midwives are telling you unhelpful things, then ignore them and find an IBCLC right away.
Also, how are you feeding her? If not already, you can try laid back nursing/breast crawl/ baby-led feeding (whatever you want to call it) to see if that helps. Recline in bed or a chair, support yourself comfortably with cushions etc and put her on your chest - skin to skin - and see how she goes.
When babies are upright they're working against their natural instincts, so being on their bellies, with gravity helping them along, they can sometimes get it right when they couldn't before.
Good luck!