Firstly congrats on your new arrival!

Nope it is never too late to correct an attachment.

From what I understand his top lip should be curled back... it is called the flange curl (or something like that I can't for the life of me remember the technical term) but when he comes off he should have a line under his nose (from where his lip was curled back) and one under his bottom lip and between his chin (from his bottom lip curling down).

Was this an ABA Meeting? Either way I am sorry for the way you were spoken to

Breastfeeding isn't supposed to hurt... but I did find that until I got it all right - it did hurt... and sometimes still hurts - but there is differing degrees of hurt. Excruiating pain - no shouldn't hurt that much, bit of tenderness - maybe sometimes.

His feeds may be taking longer at the moment because he is so young. My DD was born premmie so her feeds took quite long when she was first born, she came home at 36 weeks gestation (2 weeks old) and even then - up until about 2months - her feeds would often take quite some time.

I think things will get better - they certainly did for me. Once I got my confidence up and both DD and I got used to BFing it was much much better!

If the group you attended wasn't ABA, have you attended an ABA meeting? The ABA hotline may also be able to give you some tips on attachment.