You are doing a great job and have no reason to feel guilty Learning to be a mum takes time.

My babies both had that congested breathing sound when feeding - I took DD to the doctor because I was so concerned but the doctor assured me it was normal. I haven't heard your baby breath so I can't make a call on it over the internet, but if you are worried get him checked out by a GP or baby nurse.

As for the vomitting - that too is very normal. I asked one of the midwives about it because it seemed like so much and she said that if you think of how wet one of those terry toweling nappies get if you tip 20mL of water over it and baby vomit doesn't usually saturate one of those, then it is not actually as much as it seems.

She also said that it is not completely bm that is coming back up again - it mixes with saliva and other things so they are actually digesting quite a lot.

If you are concerned, keep and eye on your baby's weight. As long as they are gaining, then it is fine.

My only other advice would be to make an appointment with a Lactation Consultant. They will be able to look at all these things for you and help you work through some of these issues. Not all of them will push bfing onto either, if you don't want to keep going, but they will talk you through the things you need to think about. I saw a LC with my first baby and found it really useful. She was very encouraging.

Just remember you are doing a great job, give yourself time to learn to be a mum and take each day as it comes.