Baby is 8 weeks and 1 day. Feeding was excruciating in hospital, so I expressed full-time from day 3 to 7 weeks. Have been breastfeeding with 1 express each day for 8 days now.
Expressing was painful, some times more than others. I treated myself with daktarin gel in case I had thrush. I really have no idea if it helped or not.
Breastfeeding is very very painful, especially for the first minute. I know it's often painful when your body is still getting used to it, but I'm at the point where I dread the next feed. Very occasionally I'll have a feed that doesn't hurt much at all after the first minute.
I am on my second tube of daktarin. I sometimes get shooting pains in my breasts. My nipples are very red and hurt pretty much constantly - even if exposed to nothing but air. Hurts to touch them, to dry them with a towel, etc etc.
I have seen child health nurse, doctor, pharmacist, and they all think it's thrush (although none have seen my breasts). But I feel like the daktarin isn't really doing anything (using it after every feed at the moment).
I just don't know if it's thrush or something else, like incorrect latching. I am exhausted from being in pain so much. Has anyone been through this, and what does it sound like to you?
I haven't had thrush before so I am not really sure about that, but my first instinct from reading your post was to get your attachment looked at and see if there are any issues. Early on I was experiencing very very sore nipples and thought my attachment was fine and that my nipples were just getting used to feeding. Then I saw a LC for a routine postnatal appointment, she pointed out one small thing for me to do and it got sooooo much better.
ETA - I should say my nipples were quite grazed from the dodgy attachment. Would you say the feel like they are grazed? If they do get some breast milk onto them and let them air dry.
Last edited by Sagres; May 11th, 2010 at 09:24 PM.
You've had a rough start, but well done on perservering so long. You really do need to get this fixed though - you can take this pain for only so long!
Hon, you NEED to see a lactation consultant or ABA counsellor - someone with expertise in breastfeeding and breastfeeding problems. It could well be something as simple to fix as incorrect attachment - an expert will watch you feed and help you from there, it's really the only way to get it right.
The ABA have a 24-hour helpline you can call for advice 1800-mum-2-mum
You can also look here for lactation consultant recommendations - they cost, but it's well worth it. Or your hospital may have LCs on staff that can help you out - give them a call.
Great advice from the others to seek help from a LC or the ABA.
If it is thrush, you need to be treating bub as well, or bub will just be re-infecting you. Check your baby's mouth for white spots.. that's a tell tale sign. Maybe get your GP to check both of you?
I'm sorry to hear it's been so painful for so long. Hopefully it is something that can be fixed quickly. Hang in there.. I'm sure it'll get better. Well done for sticking with it
Just offering some hugs. You CAN get through this. I swore blue murder during feeds in the early days. If it is thrush then you need to get professional advice. As Liz said- bub needs to be treated too.
I second third and fourth the advice to ring the ABA. They are brilliant and are used to people calling up in tears with screaming babies in the background... Please don't hesitate to call them as often as you need!
My only other thought is vasospasm. I had this and it was so painful in the early weeks. It is a constriction of blood flow to the nipple and is generally exacerbated by grazing to the nipple. It hurt to have my nipples exposed to the air and after showers was UNBEARABLE. My nipples would shrivel and be so sore!!! The latching on made me screach and then it would pass and pain would return towards the end of the feed. Do you have a history of poor circulation or chill blaines?
If you think you may have it, a warm washer on your nipples before a feed and cover them warmly after a shower should help. Mine went away by the 10 week mark I think, once bub had a better attachment, which improved as she got bigger and I was more confident.
We're still feeding 16 months on. It's so worth the perserverance!!!
Thank you ladies for your supoort and encouragement. I am feeding atm and have shifted his position a bit, which helped a little. Will get onto ABA tomorrow (I know I can call anytime but I feel bad waking up some poor mum if it's not life-threatening!). I also have a GP appt for Monday so if things aren't better will have a talk about the thrush.
I don't know if it's related but I feel like I've had my happy little sleeper disappear this week! Up until Sunday, he has been going 5-6 hours between feeds (even up to 9!) and sleeping really well in between. Now we're suddenly at 4 hours, with a lot of unsettledness in between. I don't know if it's related to the feeding - I've wondered if he's not filling up enough? I never feel like he feeds properly - he gets really sleepy and by the end I'm tickling him every 30 seconds to keep sucking. So then when I think he's just comfort sucking I take him off (too sore to be used like that!) - usually this means he has about 30 minute feeds. I've been offering only one side as he has had green nappies so trying to see if that helps. He's also having 4-5-6 poos per day (usually while feeding), and his weight gain since starting breastfeeding 9 days ago has been poor at around 140g in 10 days (up until then had been excellent. Dr says it has to average out sometime but is checking him again on Monday).
I just don't know how to tell if he's had enough and I feel like I don't have a clue what I'm doing. But I feel like no one person is able to look at everything that's going on - ABA or LC won't be able to help with the more medical side of things (nappies, thrush, weight) but dr doesn't have time to deal with breastfeeding. So I've just been doing heaps of research myself, but being in pain and with increasingly less sleep I'm not really able to experiment too much - I need answers now iykwim? If I have cracked/grazed nipples (and I wouldn't have a clue what they look like) then treating for thrush will stop them healing and vice versa. It's also hard to explain to a screaming baby that they just need to wait while I try a new position.
Thanks for listening - I had no idea bfeeding would be this hard!
I think it sounds like vasospasm too. I don't know much about it, but I've heard about it here on BB. Try putting a warm face washer on your nipple just befor you attatch.
I tried that once & it worked miracles! No pain with attatchment at all. I stopped feeding my first 2 & struggled with my third & I now think vasospasm is why. Although I can't be too sure. I need to do some research before I start feeding this bub.
He might be having a growth spurt & thats why he's so unsettled at the moment. It is common for a new baby to breast feed every 2 hours during the day & they often cluster feed early in the evening, then will sometimes sleep very well at night. These feed times can be all over the place though, with the longer sleep is during the day.
Every baby is different, so keep to his lead with the feeding times. 5 - 6 hours between feeds is fine maybe once a day, but I'd be offering to him every 2 - 3 hours, as that sounds like too long between all feeds to me.
Try getting in touch with a LC & the ABA & see how you go. Good luck.
Get your Doctor to take a swab of your nipple and bubs mouth and rule out any bacterial infections too.
You sound like you need a total expert for your own piece of mind - where abouts are you? There are some GP/LCs out there!
Dear Sunshine,
Congratulations on your baby and well done for getting this far with your breastfeeding.
I personally would not be worried about the change in weight gain yet. You said you went from giving EBM to breastfeeding at week 7. Now bubs is in control and not getting the regulated amount as before. It would be normal i would think for a drop in weight gain while your little one gets used to breast feeding and being in control. I expressed for 6 1/2 weeks before DD was strong enough for breastfeeding as she was premmie. She was previously getting EBM via a nasogastric tube and was often asleep when it was given every 3 hours. I was so worried when I went home and was bf'ing that she was going hungry. Plenty of wet nappies reassured me. She put on weight slowly at first, in fact the first 3 days she only put on 30 grams! Just get weighed regularly and see how it goes over a longer period.
You mention that your boy has changed his sleep patterns etc. He would be almost 8 weeks? At 8 weeks corrected my DD started to change. It may be a growth spurt so he will be increasing your supply. Look up "wonder week", a developmental change that he is going through that could be leading to him being more unsettled. One thing I have learnt is that you get in to a pattern and then boom the little ones change it on us. Check out wonder weeks on the internet.
I hope the GP/ABA/LC is able to help with the nipples and get you painfree soon.
The ABA and an LC know a lot about weight gains and thrush etc. An LC is a professional who should be able to coach you through this. it is money well spent!
Now its a more reasonable hour, please ring the ABA its 1800-mum-2-mum. They can get you started on sorting this out.
You're doing so well. Babies always change when you're onto something good. Fortunately they also outgrow the crappy times too. Hang in there!
Yep, an LC can definitely help with the medical side of things also. ALmost everything at this age is related to feeding, so LCs can do thrush, weight, unsettledness, sleeping.... ABA can also offer advice on all those things too.
Weight gains should alwasy be considered averaged over a month or so - they will vary a great deal from week to week. 140g in 10 days in not too bad, really, so don't stress out just yet
The sudden increase in feeding and unsettledness is very common, you'll find it happens every now and then.
The frequent feeding could be one of a few things, a growth spurt (totally normal and you just have to ride the frequent feeding out) or incorrect attachment (meaning he isn't feeding effectively each feed, then gets hungry quicker), or as some one else suggested as you have been expressing you have been in control of the amount he is having and now he is in control and your body just needs a couple of days to work out to make extra milk to supply his demand.
I understand what you mean about finding it hard to find one person that can help on all fronts. At the hospital I delivered they had a midwife/LC (one person) who you could make an appointment with for this type of stuff. Perhaps ring your hospital and find out if they have something similar?
Just talked to ABA and she said it doesn't sound like attachment. She also thinks if I've been using daktarin for about 6 weeks then unlikely to be thrush. She thinks it might be a bacterial infection.
Thought I'd give you an update. It's been about 24hrs since I stopped using the Daktarin, and nipples have improved 100% in terms of general soreness - still quite pink though. Still getting excruciating pain at the beginning of a feed - will go to a bfeeding class tomorrow to check attachment. However, now I'm getting the deep stabbing pain between feeds - isn't awful, but tells me that there is still something going on that shouldn't be. I know thrush can cause this, but it confuses me why nipples have improved if I've stopped Daktarin? If the thrush has moved in more deeply, maybe I don't have it on the surface anymore? Am going to GP on Monday, but would love to hear of anyone else's experience with this.
Thanks again for your support and encouragement - has made a huge difference over the past few days!
i had saw nipples for about the first 6-8 weeks too.. Then one day it just vanished. They take a while to toughen up. I have read somewhere that if there is no pain after 20 seconds of bub sucking then it's not attachment, but just general "getting use to it" Pain.
I used 'marcalan' cream to sooth sore nipples. It is the BEST stuff out! I never got cracked nipples because it helps keep the supple.
WRT to the shooting pains it does sound a bit like thrush... perhaps when you see your DR or CHN next get them to actually look at both you and your bubs. I hope it settles down for you, I konw what it's like for the pain and dread to be that bad you just want to chuck it in! Hung in there, chick! xx
Clover - I think you may be right about the shooting pains being the let-down. I've tried the heat for when I've been engorged - has helped. Haven't been able to do it before a bfeed as he's been crying for his milk!
Thanks for your encouragement Teagz.
So here is where I'm at now (with thanks to everyone's advice and ABA):
- pretty sure it's not thrush (don't have the same symptoms when I switch to expressing)
- pretty sure its an attachment issue
- have been using football hold
- have stopped all creams, lotions etc (ABA advice) and just using breastmilk and sunlight
- have had a couple of relatively ok feeds
- have still had some excruciating feeds - ends in tears
- still very red and aggrevated but no cracks or grazes
- am having vasospasm - have seen tips turn white to pink and it burns
- think vasospasm is related to painful feeds - perhaps damage is causing it? Is worse after a bad feed
The attachment
- baby's lips aren't fanned out like they should be. Pain reduces a bit when I do it manually, but is there a way to get it right from the outset?
- tongue is in the correct place
- I am getting pinched nipples during feeds - think that also might be a source of pain - how can I prevent this?
(sorry am typing 1-handed!)
Thanks again for all your help, and please let me know if you have any ideas on improving attachment!
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You've had a rough start, but well done on perservering so long. You really do need to get this fixed though - you can take this pain for only so long!
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