Hey babe, just found this thread
I automatically get my back up nowadays when I hear some condition or other blamed on breastfeeding, or when someone is told the condition will improve upon cessation of breastfeeding. I was told exactly this about SPD and it has no basis in fact, as I found out. Lucky for me, I was prepared to go on friggin crutches had the 'advice' been true, in order to breastfeed my baby! I went for a second opinion with an osteo and never looked back. Not that I thnk an Osteo is your ticket, but as an example of not taking that feeble "it must be the breastfeeding and the hormones thingy" line as gospel. I've decided that blaming breastfeeding is a caregiver's way of saying
On the OT, do you reckon there may be a relationship between how you feel during the day and how you feel about going out and your DS's fussiness at these times? I just have a theory I've developed from your posts that you feel more stressed during the day because of wanting to go out but anticipating the problems with the incontinence, and at night relieved that there is less need or expectation to leave the house. It's possible that DS is vibing off you and cluster feeds when your own stress hormones decrease at that end of the day. Just a theory that may help
There are so many things we have been conditioned to expect as part of bearing children because no-one has bothered to find solutions or even real explanations (after all, aren't there serious things like cancer to cure instead of 'womens business'?).
I'm glad you're still BFing - so often women listen to this initial, unqualified advice and see no improvement in their complaint and lose the BFing - double whammy.
I hope you get some real answers and support from your new caregivers!!