DH wants me to give DD formula at night :((

[Heaven]

I doubt it would work anyway olive. My DD is waking at least 3 times a night too. The fact that she's waking that much at this age tells me it's more for comfort than hunger. DD can't be that hungry that often at night IMO. So I doubt formula would help. I have tried filling her up lots before bed but it doesn't matter how much she eats, it doesn't make a difference.

I have given up trying to change DD and am just going with it and I have been much happier ever since. I was getting so stressed out trying to change her and it was never working for me so it just made it worse. Since I gave up I have actually been feeling more rested. I don't know how that works but it did?? I hope you can find something that works for you.

FWIW I don't think you're doing anything wrong, you DD sounds normal and you're doing a great job! It's hard work but I just keep trying to remind myself that it won't last forever and one day I might even miss the night time feeds (can't imagine it now, lol).

I don't know if I was any help.

[boomba]

Oh hun! Do what you want to do! I personally dont think it will help.

your doing an awesome job and it sounds pretty normal that she is waking. Maybe ask your DH to let you ahve a sleep in some morings instead of suggesting the formula!

xxxx

[Olive]

thanks lovelies, these are the answers i was after! will be showing this thread to DH tonight!
i dont want to give her any as i also doubt it will change things!

[Junglemum]

The only thing it will change is how you feel. I know it will make you feel terrible. Sure you're tired and things are tough, but adding guilt to that is not going to help. You are doing an amazing job love. The first years of a babies life i have found tough, but as you know it doesn't last forever. Soon M will be sleeping like a champ and you will hardly be able to remember this time.

M is getting all she needs from your amazing BM. Sure giving her formula may make her sleep a little longer, but only because it is more difficult to digest and will set in her stomach for longer. But i'm not sure sure that is a good thing.....

On the other hand, if you WANT to give her formula and feel it is the right thing for your family, then do it. Just be happy about whatever decision you make.

[Nelle]

I think do what you want Olive. xo
She is breastfed even if you did decide to formula feed so it's not like she's not receiving the benefits of breastfeeding. If she was exclusively breastfed and 4 months old, that's one thing, but she's on solids and breastfed through the day.

I am pretty passionate about breastfeeding, but I am also passionate about sleep, especially if the deprivation is starting to be overwhelming. I think this is also about what you need - DD2 can sleep during the day if she is unsettled at night, but you can't. xo

[aussienic]

Have you tried a small snack later in the evening? Say about half hour before her last BF

[{sarah}]

Olive, Alexzander was formula fed from a few days after birth & let me tell you it didn't help him sleep at all.

[AliBaby]

I think do what you want Olive. xo
She is breastfed even if you did decide to formula feed so it's not like she's not receiving the benefits of breastfeeding. If she was exclusively breastfed and 4 months old, that's one thing, but she's on solids and breastfed through the day.

I am pretty passionate about breastfeeding, but I am also passionate about sleep, especially if the deprivation is starting to be overwhelming. I think this is also about what you need - DD2 can sleep during the day if she is unsettled at night, but you can't. xo

:yeahthat: I have to spread the love to Nelle. Do what you want hun. You know DD best.

I do both, DD's sleep is the same regardless of which she has. It doesnt give her a tummy ache though if she does have formula.

Are you going to try cows milk after she turns one? Seeming she is almost there you could completely skip formula.

Of course its up to you but just thinking its not long until she is over one so no point starting formula if she wont be on it for long IYKWIM.

Hope sleep improves

Maybe its those pesky teeth??

[Kmn]

Have you tried giving her yoghurt or avocado or some other filling thing for supper? That might be as effective as a bottle and a lot less emotive.

[Nai]

Olive - I know how hard it has been with DD2's sleep (or lack of). We have only just got DD2 to stop feeding overnight. She doesn't need it and she was waking just for comfort. I had to take a harder line with her as I am going back to work next week and I can't be up 3 times a night but honestly I don't think formula will make a difference as it does seem like she is waking more for comfort than hunger.