I think you just need to give her a little bit more time. A couple of weeks, maybe. She's already in the habit of feeding and cuddling to sleep - that's what she did for 9 months before being born. She'll grow out of it.
I don't think you need to express off foremilk - actually it's a good thing to get that first. It quenches thirst and gives babies a sugar hit to keep them going. I guess you do the usual things like taking clothes off, wet washers, burp and change sides?