Thanks MadB for your response and suggestions I have tried going into a darkened quiet room to feed and i still seem to have problems (also tricky for me to do all the time as I have a very active toddler to disrupt things too!) Im concerned because he gets so distressed...hes not just distracted hes either in pain or very very frustrated...I might add that he sucks soooo hard sometimes that his eye goes red...almost like hes about to burst a capillary! He is producing good wet nappies so I feel like he is getting enough but at the same time it cant be normal for him to break off after a few minutes crying and do this constantly throughout the feed! I just cant put my finger on what is going on...am hoping if it is a phase it will end soon cause feeding is becoming so stressful for me...might get in touch with a lactation consultant and see if they can provide some answers too...thanks again for your response...