help needed for a friend..

[onthefly]

How's your friend going?
Calling the ABA would be a great idea, if she's up for it. It is so hard to go and get help, isn't it? It's one of my greatest regrets from early motherhood - not seeking out more help. It's out there if you'll just go and find it.
Would she go to a local meeting of the ABA if a good friend went along with her perhaps...? Once she's met her local counsellors she might find it a lot easier to seek help.

4-hourly feeds for a newborn sounds very wrong to me.... 2-hourly would be closer to the mark at that age - and especially if weight gains are a worry.
I'm not sure what the go is with the shield - you'll have to ask about that. Was the nipple damaged? Or maybe they told her to use it as it's flat/inverted or something...?

Hope she and her baby are doing well.

[Jennifer13]

Let us know if there's anything further you need to help your friend out, hun. She'd probably appreciate some assistance with her other child so she can focus on getting things established with the new baby, if you're in a position to help. Good on you for being there for her!

[~clover~]

My DS fed 2 hourly for alot of months during the day. On off days even hourly. But didn't spread any feeds out til 3 hourly til he was 8 months old.
All babies are different, but 2 hourly is the average for a BFed NB. I would suggest to her to just feed him when ever he needs comfort. Be it 30 minutes ago, or an hour ago.
DS used to cluster feed at night as well, so from about 5 ish he would basically feed for 3 hours straight.

I used shields when I was cracked. They gave my nipples a break while healed. I just gave it 2 days, then would be fine to feed without them.

I would be trying to get her to another LC. They are worth their weight in gold

Your a great friend. Goodluck.

[STARRYSKY]

Thankyou for all your replies!

I was shocked that she was told to feed 4 hourly!

I will be ringing her today to see how she is going, her DD is in CC 3 days a week, so she has a bit of a break.
I didnt even ask why she was using the shield will find out today.
I know she was expressing a bit in the hospital, I am going to lend her my pump so she can continue to pump if she wants, might help to up the supply in the other boob.
Thanks again ladies, youre all fantastic!