i reckon it'd be pretty unusual if she was self weaning already...it seems pretty young for that? anyways, have you tried calling the ABA helpline? their number is 1800 686 2686. i called them in tears when DS was about 5 days old & the counsellor i spoke to was great - calming, knowledgeable but also really practical.

personally, i'd keep persisting but i would ring the ABA re-breast refusal & see what they have to say.