hun. I think you can find a way to stop bfing to sleep and still bf. You say that DH has a better time of it settling her to sleep, so how about trying marcellus's suggestion. We always did bf in the lounge, then book and tuck in bed, kiss, goodnight. Get DH to do everything after the bf (if at all possible). How is her ear infection? Have you thought about getting a second opinion on whether she can have grommets (my cousin's DD2 had them put in at about 12 mths and hasn't had a single infection since after three/four in a couple of months - she's in Melb)?