I agree with the above!! The friends who come around and don't expect me to entertain them, who can get themselves and me a hot drink, who pay DS1 lots of attention and bring us food or do a quick bit of housework are absolute treasures. I personally couldn't have made it through the last 4 weeks without the 2 of them and my mum. The other visitors are just more work in these early days! And mum kept reminding me to trust myself and that I will get through this fog, and she did it without giving me un-asked-for advice too.