It hurts!!

[Arcadia]

it looks a bit white on the end when she comes off. No, it's not symetrical, it looks like she's sucking more of the top of my nipple coz it's pulled out more than the bottom

Oh, like a lipstick??? My DD did that to me too (and still does when she's lazy). It could be an issue, but it could also just be your bub's technique (as the case with me).

For me it was because she was trying to cope with the flow, so she'd go on perfectly, then when the milk come down, she'd kinda pull off and then only be on the end of my nipple so she didn't gag on the milk. She still does this, the only difference is my nipples are tough as nuts these days.

Hang in there is all I can say!!!! Be really kind to yourself and get lots of support from anyone you can.

You're doing a fabulous job!!!!