Need support to keep going

[nattyfred]

The last few nights dd hasn't wanted to go down and seriously feeding her laying down in bed and letting her suck away has been the only thing to get her to settle.

Same here we do this almost every evening and sometimes if Im extra tired in the day as it beats the struggle and tears..sometimes we sleep together and sometimes I put her in her bed once she is well and truly asleep.

I hope it gets better hun...

[Mummato2]

Thanks everyone for your support! We had a much better night - In bed at 8pm (both of us lol)power feed at 3am - 15 mins - then awake again at 5.30am. He played in his cot until 6.30am when he hopped into my bed for a feed and promptly went back to sleep Fed again at 8am - and back to sleep again until 9.30!!!!

Consequently am feeling a bit more human today (and a bit more rational). I think I am also stressing at the prospect of returning to work at the end of the month and the effect that will have on my bf. I did give him 80mls of formula yesterday - but just to see if he would take it- he has his first day of FDC in two weeks. I will have to start a new thread for advice on how this can work????

Thanks again for all the hugs and support - it means so much to know I am not alone in my mothering journey...

I was going to suggest some support from either Karitane or Tresillian - if you are BF'ing, you'll be given priority.

As for FDC, I am a FDC Carer (well, on Mat leave now) and it depends on how far away from the Carer you are as to your options in feeding.

I had one mumma that worked close, so would pop in a couple of times through the day to feed her littlie, and that worked well. Another mum tried the same thing, but her littlie would get distressed that she'd see mummy go a couple of times per day, so she started expressing and she would take the bottle from me with no worries (she was hungry and I didn't smell like her mummy)

Depends on what you feel comfortable with and how flexible your Carer is.

[Amaunet]

I was going to suggest some support from either Karitane or Tresillian - if you are BF'ing, you'll be given priority.

Thanks M2, good advice except I'm not prepared to do ANY CC/CiO - which seems to be what the "sleep schools" do??? We watched a Karitane video at Mothers group and I was crying watching other peoples babies scream.

My FDC mum seems really nice - he'll be on formula for the time he's away - but I'm ok with that - just hope he doesn't get to like it more than the boobie!

[BekZ]

CF - There are a couple of BB mums who give formula during the day whilst bub is in care and then bf at other times. I believe this is can be done successfully. However be prepared for bub to want you a lot in the evenings and during the night. You've done a great job establising bfing so far and I am sure your DS will still love to bf.

Some one please correct me here if I am wrong. You could give bub formula in a sippy cup if you don't want to get him used to the bottle.