I've passed one hurdle which has been particularly unpleasant, 2 weeks of total engorgement! But finally this is settling down which is a relief.

However i'm currently milling over how to tackle the next challenge... my toddler is not eating, well barely..... It started with rejecting breakfast, then having 1 bite of lunch and in recent days refusing dinner as well. I have tried everything - favourite foods, yoghurt and fruit smoothies, pureed fruit on toast. I've been offering several options each time but he just does not want to eat. Instead he asks for the boob - he is currently feeding as much as my newborn! I've been trying to research just how much food toddlers do need and while i know Bm is liquid gold, i do think he needs to be eating some food... yesterday all he ate was a bit of bread and grated cheese (separately )..... So i'm not sure what to do at this point, those i've spoken to who tandem didn't have this happen.

The other thing is coming to grips with the fact that tandem bf is not the all divine bonding experience i thought it would be between my boys..... when i do have them both on the boobs, rather than staring lovingly in to their eyes, my time is spent trying to protect my newborn from being crushed by and over enthusiastic toddler who likes to crawl all over me and poke his brother in the head! So i try to feed them separately now. My toddler hasn't adjusted to this that well but i console myself knowing he had me to himself for 2 years which is pretty good.... then i begin to feel guilty that my newborn has to share, but luckily he has been a cruisey baby since birth and doesn't seem phased at all!

So that's where i am 2 weeks in!