I second baby led attachment. Do you have pain when feeding, or are you concerned bub isn't draining the breast, or not building up a supply? Supply issues are best resolved by you staying in bed with you and bub topless and just feed, feed, feed. Not easy with a toddler I know. Do you have irl support around to help you? Breastfeeding is a community thing...you need your community around you to help you do this. Can we help you at all??