Spend a couple of days doing nothing but feeding. Topping her up will not help. Lay in bed with her and every time she looks at you sideways offer her the bb. Dont give up yet, take it one day at a time, You will get there
Awwww Refulx... I feel your pain! My LO has reflux and it's hard!
I agree with Alioops - Take a couple of days, clear your schedule and just cuddle and feed and cuddle and feed (a baby carrier works well) I found with my LO all she wanted to do was be helded by me, feed...
what happens if you dont force the last little bit of breast when she "fights it ' if you left the feed there then as soon as she showed signs feed her breast again?
how often is she feeding? lots of wet nappies?
bottle or breast wont really make a difference for sleeping patterns. do you sleep with her? you and her may find you get a better sleep if you do.
she really just snack feeds during the day. I do offer her the breast as often as possible but as soon as theres no fast flow she wont have it and just starts screaming till i give her a botttle. we dont really go anywhere, im scared to leave the house most of the time!! plenty of wet nappies. I try not to sleep with her when my partner is in the bed (mostly he falls asleep on the lounge and i leave him there but yes when shes asleep with me she sleeps longer but still she like throws her head side to side alot of the time like shes dreaming? do bubs dream? or like shes hurting in her sleep...this is what wakes her up most of the time im thinking.
how often are you feeding her? what is your expectations about feeding her(frequency, length)
Is your DP supportive of feeding and helping with other things around so you can focus on feeding?
shes really not in any routine of feeding, if i get her before shes fullt awake shes might have a good breastfeed...but then thats still not much, and then i usally top her up about 60mls coz shes cranky and then i usally have to cuddle feed her off to sleep. so i cant really give how often in hours...theres just no routine!
I really wanted to go as long as i could....6months - 1 year i was hoping.
Im guessing DP is my partner? im new here i dont know what these DP DD mean
He just gets cranky when shes cries. he does try and help with housework (when hes not at work) but hes just sick of the crying and unsettledness. truthfully he isnt very supportive i ask him all the time what does he think i should do and he just says its up to me
That is the ABA helpline. I actually had to tell DH (dear hubby) to encourage me to keep going. It helped a lot for him to not put pressure on me to make my DD's (dear daughters) stop crying. The crying puts enough pressure on you with him adding to it ITMS (if that makes sense).
When I felt like giving up I always said keep going today and see how I feel in the morning. It certainly did help and I am still feeding at 10 months.
The biggest thing on the hard days is support, You can do this hun. You are a great mum. Don't second guess yourself, your intuition is there for a reason. One feed at a time, one step at a time, one day at a time.
If you have a breast pump you could try expressing until you let down to make it easier for her. And after feeding express and top up with expressed milk.
Hang In There hun, It's not always easy but it is worth it.
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but yes when shes asleep with me she sleeps longer but still she like throws her head side to side alot of the time like shes dreaming? do bubs dream? or like shes hurting in her sleep...this is what wakes her up most of the time im thinking.
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