Where do you feed her? Is it relaxing for you both? I find it really hard to get a let down with dd 2.5yrs crawling all over us. Feeding on the bed seems to help.

My only other thought is maybe try feeding her before she's so hungry she's really impatient. How often is she feeding?
Generally I feed her in the lounge room because it's close to my kids. I often feel like it's a bit distracting for her but I can't leave the boys unsupervised. I shudder to think what mayhem they could do in a 10 minute feed if I was to feed her up in the bedroom lol. She's demand fed so feeds change every day. I generally offer when she starts whingeing. She seems to go to from happy as a clam to starving in a second (maybe I am just bad at reading the signs). I'd say she feeds 6-10 times in 24hrs about 2-4 of those overnight.