Thanks everyone for taking time out to reply.

I did say when i posted that i had tried different holds, but that none seemed to be a clear winner. Well, I think that i was trying different holds, but he was already screaming and stressing (and I was screaming and stressing too!), so nothing seemed to be ok. But, if i either lie him flat on his back, or football hold, it seems to be ok. It seems weird to lie him on his back hover over him - but hey, whatever works right!

Hopefully he starts to get 'full' and sleep better and then stress less etc, and then DS1 will be happier, and I will be happier. If it continues to seem like a problem, then I'll call an LC i think. One of the mum's in my mother's group is an osteopath, and she's always offer to do treatments on the kids - i just feel weird about that, in case something went wrong YKWIM.

Thanks again for your help,
Jo