When you and your Loved Other are looking or talking about buying an established house, or land and building, etc, and you want one thing and they want something else, and you can't agree, what do you do?

The Man and I are talking about two properties at the moment. He wants to buy a block of land in the little town we are in. The block is about 2700-2900 metres square (there are three blocks next to eachother for sale, varying in size). It's on the high side of the road the low side has only a couple of houses on it, then is forest to The River. We would then pay some off the mortgage I think, and build a big shed, fit it out for living and move in to it, build a house with some of the fittings in the ahed (like kitchen), and then we have a big shed for our toys. I used to be all for this idea, but now I want an old house. Even building a house to look old, it never will be the same.

A property I like is in a town about four kilometres West of here, away from The River. It is a three bedroom two bathroom home, with some big verandahs, on 2260 metres square. But it has no garage or shedding (sorry, a little garden shed, but that's not what I am talking about really), and it has a carport. The carport would be the only outside play area at the moment for the kids, and it is gravel. The block has a few trees, but nothing spectacular. The property is currently a rental (until April next year).

The price difference is $90,000, if the asking prices were paid. The issues the Man has with the house is that it jas no garage and it would be expensive for us to build one, having to pay off some mortgage first, and the amount of mowing he would have to do. That doesn't really make any sense to me. He also talks about having to spend his time not at work, working on/around the house. Again, not sure on that, as he is talking about us doing a great deal of the building on the block. I do understand his saying that he doesn't want to move away from The River. It's ten minutes away. If that. And we would also have to build undercover areas, etc.

We're not fighting over this, but are in disagreement. Am I just not making sense of what he is saying because I am so blinded by what I want? (I really want an old farmhouse sort of place.....)