When you can't agree on a house, what do you do?

[~TT40~]

we are the same Aussiegirl. we each have a couple of things that are a must, no questions, and don't even think about a place until it meets both of our lists. (although 90% of the things are on both our lists.) but maybe think of a few things you must have, have him think of a few things you must have and see if this place meets those things. although obviously building will be easier to meet the list... but depending what those things are, might not be possible even building a place.

[LuluHB]

FWIW, when we built it was finished ahead of schedule, and that was during the huge building boom in Perth so while there are plenty of horror stories out there, its not always the way. There are however lots of extra costs above the price given to you when you look at a display home for example.

DH and I have always had different ideas on what we want. When we were looking at display homes when we were going to build there were hundreds of houses we looked at that we couldn't agree on, even with variations to the design. The house we eventually settled on was a home we both loved, but it took us a while to get there. It was a modern house, and my first love is the old style with big verandahs etc, but the house had a ton of features still that I loved about it.

We then decided to move and looked at both building again (did our own design from scratch) as well as established. DH's problem is that he by his own admission can't see past what is right in front of him, whereas I am good at stripping it bare of awful furniture, paint, curtains etc so there were huge disagreements. Again, it took us a very long time before we finally found a house that we both liked the bones of.

So, its compromise. By both of you. And FWIW, you live on the inside of your house, so while you may not be able to get a true heritage look on a new house, you can get a pretty good job and then furnish and finish it appropriately to complete the look.

Good luck. Its tough when you are way apart on such an important and expensive decision