Thanks for those questions, Nae. There is so much to think about and take into consideration for me. It's not just a matter of up and going to me. TO him it's differnt because he has nothing keeping him here except us. My whole family is here and I've lived in the area my whole life, so it will be difficult for me. My step ad is really sick and mum would have a heart attack if we moved away now. I couldn't do that to her. She has my brothers who live close so she wouldn't be alone but she seems to lean on me alot more than them. I haven't mentioned any thing to her because she's having enough anxiety dealing with my step dad's situation.
The position won't necessarily put him in a higher place/position, but it's different experience for him. There are other incentives too, like being able to choose any area to live in after the 3yrs. We would love to live by the beach sometime inour lives and this could be a way to do it! That's if we don't absolutely love the country and decide to stay, LOL!
Finacially it will be a good step for us. And I can be a full time SAHM again. Another big incentive for me. We would also be living in a house (currently in a 2br, 3rd floor unit).
I don't know how long it would be from submission to actually moving. It has been such a spur on the momnet thing! So unlike me!! I really like the idea of moving, and I have a good feeling about it, but this is just too soon for me! I need to think about it and mentally prepare, LOL! DH said that these positions do come up fairly regularly, but it depends on where the place is, it could be a one street town next time, KWIM?? I don't want somewhere so small, I want to be able to make friends and stuff, so I think I would need the opportunity to go to playgroups and swimming lessons and stuff like that with the kids.
Ugh, sooo much to think about! But I think for this time, it will be a no. There is plenty of time to do it and there is no pressure anyway.....
sorry to hear about your stepdad, you will really have to way up the pros and cons but coming from someone who after 8 years living out of her home state and finely coming home only to have to tell my family that its not working and we will be moving again, there is never a good time for news like that, they will get over it they will understand why you are doing what you have chosen to do...
you have to also learn that you cant live your life for your family as they are no longer you primary family you and your DH with your children are your primary family and you need to put them 1st, you need to learn to look at whats best for your primary family and what you need to do. not how hard it will be for everyone else....Its not like you wont visit or will never see them again, could be worse could be interstate ( like I am doing ) or harder still OS... The best bit is you get to blame work telling your family like you just told us your doing this so you can be a SAHM and so that you can one day move to the coast... ( dont blame you there I LOVE northern NSW coast.... )
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telling your family like you just told us your doing this so you can be a SAHM and so that you can one day move to the coast... ( dont blame you there I LOVE northern NSW coast.... )
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