I am 35 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday that we need to move out of the house we have been renting for the last 6 years.
The landlords feel awful as they know I am pregnant but we all dont really have a choice as the house has active termites and has done structural damage to some of the main supporting beams near the back of the house. They need to do major structural repairs and it's just been a nightmare for the last 3 years for the owners. I do really feel for them.
Anyway, it means we have to move out They have said we can move out whenever we like but really by May 1st at the latest so they can begin work.
I am so stressed. We have 2 dogs, an almost 4 year old DD and a baby on the way. There is sooooooo much to pack and clean out, etc and I know it will be difficult to find some where that will accept 2 little dogs even though the landlord said they would give us great references for them.
So I am trying to decide what is best to do. Try and move within the next 5 weeks or wait until free the baby is born?
this is a REALLY really tough one.... really sucks . 5 weeks to find a place, pack, unpack, get settled before bubs comes along could be really really cutting it short.. if there was more than 5 weeks i would probably say move.. but i would probably wait a few months
We rent through them privately which I think is going to make things even harder for us. Not sure?
I just can't believe it. Still in shock a day after hearing the news. I had only just finished setting everything up for baby including wall stickers and all. My sister is calling me back after 6pm. She is going to come around this weekend so I might rope her into helping and I know my mum will help. DH is so busy working to bring money in so I know I am going to be the main packer.
Not sure if you remember hun, we had a similar thing when DD2 was born (about 3months I think from memory). We waited until she was born. dd1 was in daycare on the day we moved and dd2 was little enough I put the portacot up and/or had her in a carrier while I did what I could to help. Probably would have been easier to do it before she was born buit thats how it happened.
I'm more than happy to come and help you in the evenings when I can.
I would wait so you can save a bit and find a place you like. Moving with a tiny baby is hard, but you just need your mum or an older person to sit and hold baby while you do other stuff. I would also recommend professional packers too.
I would start looking now, but only jump into a pre-baby move if the place is perfect and you can afford professional removalists.
That's hard, looking for a place is time consuming and stressful at the best of times! If you can afford the expense of a removal company that would my suggestion - get one who comes in & packs everything & then transports to the new house. Good luck!
Sorry to hear you have to move I'd do it before bubs arrives. Our Dd was hard work and I can't imagine moving during all of that when she was so unsettled and wouldn't sleep. Try to get as much help as you can so that you don't feel stressed. It might be a lot for your 1st child to gain a sibling then move, they might think its the baby that brought about all the change.
That really sux, personally I would try move before bubs but does mean rushing, you'll need find something asap which might not be exactly what you want.
I've moved twice when heavily pregnant and again when DD2 was a few months old. (Hmmm... there's a pattern here! I love this house, maybe no more kids!!) I found moving when pg a lot easier, particularly if you have plenty of support. I suffer SPD when pg so I was pretty useless physically but I could still stand around and boss everyone else! I really enjoyed the nesting and setting up of a new place and it certainly gave me plenty to do in those last few weeks of pg which just seem to crawl by.
Perhaps you could ask your current landlords for some rent relief to put towards the cost of removalists?
I am so tired, dragging dd around to look at places that seem good on (website name removed by moderator - please read guidelines) and turn out rubbish. I have started the whole throwing stuff out process when I have energy but I am just so tired.
I had the biggest cry tonight as I took down all the wall stickers and all the nursery stuff that I took so much time placing up for this bub. It just felt so depressing and overwhelming.
I know moving before bub will be easier but right now it all seems hard.
To make matters worse, last night I threw up in the bath and today I threw up in the car while at traffic lights. I grabbed some serviettes from centre console but it wasn't enough, so I cried all the way home with Dd telling me it's ok mummy. Not sure whether it's stress related or morning sickness back.
I have plenty of offers of help from family and friends which is great but it's limited what they can do at the moment.
My mum is coming over tomorrow with about $100 worth of boxes and packing stuff that she is shouting me and is going to come with me to look at places, then my sister is coming over in the Arvo and is going to stay the night and help pack some stuff. I am really lucky to have them.
I just feel so lost, unsettled and in limbo land. I hate it
Sorry for the vent. Just needed to get it out.
Last edited by Amity; February 9th, 2013 at 05:08 PM.
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That really sucks. You poor thing, I really feel for you. I'd definitely move before the baby arrives though too. We moved 6 weeks before DD2 arrived and it was really tough but we did it. Mum and I did most of the packing and all our family pitched in on moving day.
I'd avoid moving after the baby is born if you can because firstly, packing with one child to look after is hard enough (I've done it three times with kids, twice with just DD1) and secondly you just don't know what's going to happen with your newborn. DD2 had a tongue tie, annihilated my nipples which lead to an array of feeding issues and 7 weeks of exclusive pumping. She also had reflux. That thrown in with the usual newborn stuff and sleep deprivation, well yeah, moving wouldn't be easy.
Good luck hon. I'm so sorry this has been dumped on you unexpectedly.
Thanks taurean. It is reassuring to hear others have been through similar situations.
Fingers crossed we find something today! Then the next step is to have our application accepted! Arrrhhh! With 2 little dogs it might be difficult but I can't lie about them.
Think positively hon. We have a dog too and got the first house we applied for. Quite remarkable in the current Perth rental market (it's mad over here!). Will be thinking of you!
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oh, what a loop you've been thrown, i can understand you feeling overwhelmed, i would be too.
i had to move, when six months pregnant (but no pets, no other sibling), from a great rental property, due to the termites (and the physical reactions i was experiencing due to the chemicals used, each time the landlord treated the termites). It was an awful experience. i had to pack up most of the house, shed, garden etc, by myself. The week before the move, the money i had saved up for removalists, got used up to fix my partner's car, which suddenly needed an expensive repair job. So stressful, trying to move using cars and a few hours of a hire a trailer for bigger items. So many trips, so much lifting.
Was very ill after the arrival of my DD, if we hadn't moved BEFORE she arrived, i wouldn't have been able to move prolly until she was around one. This is obviously an individual thing, you might have an easy labour and be just fine.
If you have a helpful mum, family and friends, USE THEM. Get them to pack up the stuff you are NOT using now. Pretend you are camping, ONLY keep unpacked the stuff you use for day to day. THIS season's clothing, basic dishes and cutlery etc. Get family/friends to start cleaning stuff that gets cleaned rarely (E.g exhaust fans) so that when you DO move, it'll be a much quicker cleaning job.
You may or may not find somewhere to live, within five weeks, so the choice of WHEN you move, may be more dependent on WHEN you find somewhere to live, rather than your choice. So the more you chip away at the decluttering, the packing etc (with family/friends), the less you'll have to do, if you suddenly find a great place, two weeks from now.
Some landlords say "no pets", so i'm guessing, when you find a landlord that does allow pets, you may have to jump on that listing.
Be kind to yourself, relax your expectations. Yes, the new bub's nursery may not be set up when they arrive, but that baby will still be loved and cared for, your family will be together, that's what really matters - the rest is gravy. Your health, the baby's health is the top priority. SO whatever you can do to de-stress - will help.
Let your family/friends know what will help - if you'd rather babysitting (of the 4yo), so that you can pack - tell them.
Accept help and clearly voice what you need to be done. I know it's hard to ask for help, it's hard to accept help too. But i'm guessing your family/friends ask because they care about you.
i lifted and reached and got up ladders ALOT when six months pregnant, i hope you are smarter than me, and utilise the help you are being offered. I had to do a month of bedrest, AFTER i had moved, really regret not having a removalist.
Bending over the large packing boxes (height of tea chest) really was hard on the back too, esp when you have a preg. belly in front.
You make piles or selections of what is to go, let other people pack the boxes, tape them shut, you can LABEL all the boxes, so you can find stuff at the other end, but let other people do the bending etc.
best of luck with finding alternative place hon. Keep some wet wipes in the car, a towel, a water spray bottle.
people do throw up, due to anxiety - moving house is a major anxiety, let alone, in this situation.
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. 5 weeks to find a place, pack, unpack, get settled before bubs comes along could be really really cutting it short.. if there was more than 5 weeks i would probably say move.. but i would probably wait a few months
moving house is so stressful.
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