I felt incredibly guilty about moving away from my family, but at the end of the day you have to do what is right for your own little family unit. 2 years is nothing in the grand scheme of things and I thoroughly believe the adventure will be a positive thing for your kids. If you don't go you will always wonder what could have been, and if you do go and hate it then you might lose some money in the failed venture but it's only money.
We moved alot as kids and I loved it, we always stayed in VIC though so it may have been a long drive to see family but you could do it by car.
My parents did try to move to SA and QLD when we were 7-14 years old but either myself or my brother said no so we didn't go but it shows that they were willing to do it once upon a time
I think that is it though Traveller, if we don't do it we will always wonder and I think it will be an amazing adventure for us all. At the moment we have the money to do it comfortably (I think! It is so hard to know how much really is enough!) so what better time.
Growing up, all my grandparents lived far away. We never felt like we were missing out, because we never knew any different. Seeing nana or grandma always meant going to the train station, or an airport pick up, and we would trail them inside while they opened their suitcases full of presents for us.
Now, our baby's grandparents are all interstate, as we moved to Brissie and away from them. My side can cope; it's all we've ever known, but DH's side don't quite get it. But it doesn't matter because we're so happy here and we're doing things we couldn't possibly have done in Melbourne, or wherever else we might have ended up. And DD will still love her grandparents, no matter what. It's up to you, and up to them how strong you make thier relationship. There are ways. Skype is wonderful.
If it is what you want to do, do it! we have moved to the other side of the country from our families. From Perth to Alice Springs to Melbourne. Yesi do miss the support, but with Skype and the telephone they don't feel so far away. Plus we have regular visits as everyone wants to come to Melbourne. It's your life and you don't want to go through it saying what if.
I agree to do it! We have lived in a few different places now since having DS. The furtherest we went was about 8 hrs by car away from my parents. But we are probably going to live overseas at the end of next year. I want to experience living in another country and I want DS to see some of the world and how others live. Two years sounds like a long time but it is pretty short really. I think if you actually want to do it then go for it!
Just do it! We are about to move to our 4th new city since DS was born (he is 4). We haven't had choice in any of our moves and it sucks to move away from family and I do feel guilty, especially leaving my mum behind again. But you have to look at the opportunity and positives for you and your kids. Skype and cheap calls etc make it a lot better to stay in touch than a few decades ago
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